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if you haven’t read it yet… do. I linked the pdf it’s only 164 pages and it is so so complex and sweet and fucking horribly sad, so amazing how it’s all packed in there.
Mar 4, 2024
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this book will hurt you. read if you want to feel anguish! If you want to yearn 🥲
Feb 13, 2024
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because he’s the king of the hill. obviously. and will make you feel everything.
Other recs:
The World Accoridng to Garp by John Irving is one of the most fucked up and disturbing books I’ve ever read. feel like I almost can’t in good conscience recommend it. But you will feel ill!
The bluest eye. Also super fucked up and sad.
OH! Boy snow bird by Helen oheyemi. Unbelievably good, language is stunning, trippy but heartbreaking.
ok that’s the list.
Mar 12, 2024
Lyrical and tender, this is a short book but you’ll want to read it slowly simply because every page is packed with something devastating or gorgeous...or both
“For I am—or I was—one of those people who pride themselves on their willpower, on their ability to make a decision and carry it through. This virtue, like most virtues, is ambiguity itself. People who believe that they are strong-willed and the masters of their destiny can only continue to believe this by becoming specialists in self-deception. Their decisions are not really decisions at all—a real decision makes one humble, one knows that it is at the mercy of more things than can be named—but elaborate systems of evasion, of illusion, designed to make themselves and the world appear to be what they and the world are not.”
Jul 8, 2024
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i find as an unhealed person who doesn’t have a good sense of self respect or mindfulness sex kind of causes a lot of problems for me interpersonal and personal.
at least a break in looking at WHY you’re having sex, and what kind of sexual scripts you’re following without even realizing.. what parts of yourself are you reinforcing and/or reducing when you enter sexual situations?
i think sex can be mistaken for intimacy sometimes, is this the form of intimacy that serves you best? what conditions do you think you need to have sex that makes you feel good and genuine? do you feel you have emotional agency in your sex life?
(edit: also! sex is so fucking vulnerable! of course being vulnerable is how you form connections.. but to perform vulnerability is not the same and it happens a lot!)
i also have a lot of personal disgust towards sexual scripts put on by pornography (violence, minors, cnc ect.) the rad fem aspect of sex/porn is a whole nother beast, i’d recommend looking into bdsm ect through that lense if it’s something you are looking for more insight towards. (obviously fuck TERF and try to avoid those rabbit holes, but radical feminism affirmed a lot of theories i had on why sex/sexuality is/are such a point of shame and contention for young people)
ANYWAY, i am only 20 so take this with a grain of salt but i think that naturalism fucks with peoples potential for healthy and fulfilling sex lives, preset scripts about what it should be and what it has been. If the sex you’re having feels wrong it probably is, and you have agency to change that, just take a break and reevaluate.
Mar 6, 2024
I made one inbetween rushes for my coworkers baby shower yesterday and even though it was just on a piece of printer paper it was so fun
a couple years ago for christmas i drew all my friends a very personal card with their names in pictures and fonts i thought they would like and it was so fun to get to show them how i perceived them or the things they enjoy
Mar 11, 2024
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Very cool way Jack Rhysider set this up, i particulary like the episodes about security audits (hired to physically break in or hack into a company building/network to test it). Also the ones about gaming are super cool, online scams, crypto, silk road.. he’s got a ton of topics, pretty long ad reads but nothing unbearable!
Mar 6, 2024