one of my exes got me a pair of sneakers like, very shortly before we broke up so i kept them in their original box in the closet before i ever got to wear them for like, a whole year before i started dating my current partner and she said she liked them a lot and that i should absolutely wear them - now they’re not “my exe’s shoes”, they’re “the shoes my partner likes”
i think it’s really nice when that happens organically, but you can definitely push the needle forward yourself if need be; do a listening party for that album with your friends, watch that show or movie with your siblings, expand the circle of trust around <thing> so it belongs to more people, and in turn it’ll belong to you more than it did when it was just you and the person who introduced you to it
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Their joie de vivre is untouchable. Showed my ex-fundie buddy Titanic (1997) for the first time and it rocked his world and rocked mine by proxy. Also applies to exmos in my experience
Feb 5, 2024
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my friend is taking brazilian drumming class, and i saw him play in a parade today. it was so cute, so make sure you go to your friend’s rec league soccer game or beginner’s ballet showcase, tell them their pottery is good (even if it isn’t), and buy those earrings they started making from clay in COVID. go to as many of their gigs as you can, especially the one in that far ass neighborhood that most people won’t show up for. there’s something so mutually enriching about celebrating people in all the small moments, not just the big ones. looking back, all the small things were the ones that meant the most.
May 19, 2024
im moving beyond the instinct that it’s “cringe” to do this. It’s nice like I was thinking of you and then you also get a good convo out of it today it was this one
Mar 7, 2024
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Mar 23, 2024
a treatise on the attention economy - checked it out on libby and got through it over the course of a work day, a lot of really interesting social and cultural explorations about how time itself is the final frontier of hypercapitalism and what decommodification of our attention and time should look like
the book starts with a story about the oldest redwood tree in oakland and how the only reason it’s still standing is bc it’s unmillable, and how being uncommercializable is essential to our survival. it ends with an exploration of alt social media platforms (mostly p2p ones) and what keeping the good parts of the social internet and rejecting the bad ones should look like
all in all a super valuable read; my only nitpick with the book is that odell isn’t just charting the attention economy but also attempting to “solve” it and relate it back to broader concepts about labor and social organizing, but her background is in the arts which leads to some really wonderful references to drive the points home while also missing some critical racial + socioeconomic analyses that one would expect (or at least really appreciate) from the book she promises to deliver in the introduction. but this does also make the book easier to read which is good because everyone should definitely engage with what she has to say
will definitely be revisiting
Mar 25, 2024