mouse your response is spot on. I spent a solid 2 years completely alone as all of my friends moved out of Boston, which is a city that already feels like everyone has their same best friends from school/growing up here. I never experienced loneliness like that for that amount of time so I downloaded Bumble BFF. I had to quiet my ego all the way down because I felt like I was a āloserā for not having friends because I was constantly comparing my situation to others. The biggest thing like mouse said is you have to put in the effort and continuity or else plans will fall through. I had about 5 ādatesā and I can honestly say they were all great and I had a fun time with each one. but some slowly faded out bc life. However I met two girls who by chance just started talking themselves and we all met and clicked immediately. We made sure to say after the first hang how important it was for us to have plans set and we made plans the following week. Long story short, I am now roommates with one of them and we both moved into the same neighborhood as the other girl in the group, and through them I have met their other friends. Bumble BFF changed my entire life and I know that we could have easily let this slip away if we hadn't made an effort at least for the first couple of months. I would try it out if you have in your city or I'm sure others will have ideas. Good luck ā¤ļø
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when i started college i had ZERO friends so i feel like im qualified for this!! it always felt like i had some evil aura that made friendships / regular socialization impossible for meā¦
in a moment of real and true desperation i downloaded bumble for its bff feature. and i met my best friend on there (who happened to go to my same school). i used it on occasion since, and met two people, but only one realllllly stuck. honestly it functions (and feels) JUST like bumble datingā¦ some people are winners, most arenāt, and it all comes down to luck. but what DOES matter is that you are putting yourself out there so anything is possible!
another thing is to go to events, preferably alone. pop-ups, concerts, community activitiesā¦ its so easy to find likeminded people this way (and its harder on bumble since you are weeding through LITERALLY everyone).
lastly cultivate the friendships you already have if its worth doing so. people introduce you to people who introduce you to people.
in the end, everyone is kinda lonely especially now. so by being the one to take initiative and walk up to someone you think is cool, you are doing that person and yourself a favor (also its like crazy exposure therapy if you have anxiety). if it doesnāt work out it was never meant to be. hope this kinda helps :,)
Jul 9, 2024
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Iāve met friends through a book club, a mutual aid group, a film discussion class, improv classes (silly but made lifelong friends!), queer craft meetupsā¦but honestly I had the most luck with BumbleBFF & other apps bc it eliminates the awkward part of not being sure if the people at the event wanna hang out outside of it or not.
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I moved to a new city during covid and times were tough here for a while, but this is what worked for me:
- befriending your coworkers (sometimes theyāre really cool and will become your bff, most of them time theyāre fine to occasionally hang w)
-being a regular at a coffee shop, bar, or concert/show venue (hit up the familiar faces and theyāre likely to introduce you to their crew as well)
-bumble bff (kind of the worst but also fun- I met a few of my close friends on here who then introduced me to their friend groups. Mostly great interactions but be weary of some ppl trying to use it as a sly dating tool)
-get involved in the community! i host a book club and I play soccer on a local rec team. Iāve met so many people that I wouldāve probably never encountered otherwise through Bookclub- donāt be afraid of multigenerational friendships! With soccer, Iāve met such a diverse crowd and itās encouraged me to attempt to learn Spanish. Itās nice to be able to get a group of ppl together and play/practice when you all have a night free, or go and watch a game! If youāre sporty, you can also invite your new sporty pals out for runs, hikes, or other workout type activities!
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