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The older I get the more interested I am in being a gracious loser. It's so easy to feel good when everything is going right, but how do I feel when things go wrong? Like, this morning I found out I didn't get an interview for a job I really wanted. It nearly ruined my entire day, which is crazy (!) because there's some many other things for me to be excited about. I just needed to take a second to sit with my feelings and really process everything.
The sky isn't falling, but it's cute you thought that.
Apr 8, 2024
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I think it depends on the rejection. There are levels depending on the situation and relationship. What I keep in mind tho is that unless the person is specially bringing up something I’ve done, it’s not necessarily personal. By that I mean, I don’t assume it’s because I’m wrong or bad. If it’s a job, maybe it’s not a good fit. If it’s romantic, maybe we’re not a good match or they have stuff going on in their life.
I choose to believe that everything is leading me to the life I’m meant to have. So when a rejection happens, it still can hurt, but I always come back to that it’s keeping me open to what’s meant for me. Life rewards you when you open yourself up and are courageous. Go for it, feel your feelings if there is a rejection, reflect if you need to adjust, and then try again!
Sep 25, 2024
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I am trying to learn to sit with rejection, look it square in the face, and still be okay.
Running away from painful things — shame, rejection, disappointments with myself or others — and not facing them has been a source of even worse pain and dysfunction.
Balancing these two things: "that really hurts" and "it does not define me" seems to be a healthier way to process.
Sep 25, 2024
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Resistance to inevitable change is a common source of suffering. Making a conscious commitment to acceptance can help you to reduce the resistance you embody every day. It can also raise your awareness of how and when you resist change.
Accept not just the truth that a breakup has occurred. Accept how you felt about the relationship from beginning to end. Accept the people you both were and the people you are now. Accept how you’ve changed or failed to change. Accept the pain that comes with vulnerability and need to remain vulnerable to grow. Accept your mistakes and their consequences. Accept your loss.
Feelings are often like clouds. If you run away from them, they may follow you for longer. If you sit with them, they will pass. Accept your clouds. They are impermanent.
Feb 16, 2025
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a brief moment of comfort in this cold corporate existence
Mar 7, 2025
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What happens behind the wheel is, frankly, none of my business. I'd rather spend my time picking songs/sipping coffee/taking in the scene.
Driving is so pedestrian.
Mar 21, 2024
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I swear to god this shit is too powerful. It doesn’t always work out the way I hoped but the win/loss ratio is definitely in my favour. We are social creatures. We like helping each other. Just do it. Ask me for something if you want. Who knows what I’ll say.
Jan 20, 2025