Controversial opinion I know, but i met my partner on tinder (weâd actually already met 6 months earlier when we played a gig together but he thought I hated him hahaha). The aspiration is that youâre supposed to meet someone irl, but for me and many other people thatâs difficult because of disability. Iâm just not in the world as much as others, and dating apps have allowed me to still have romance and sex etc throughout my disability. I think this has helped me see the benefit in dating apps - putting people across your path that you wouldnt otherwise stumble into, and also to match with people you already kind of know so you now know you fancy each other! My sister met her husband on POF (a site rather than an app, but still), because he wasnât from here so didnât know many people, and theyâd never have met otherwise as heâs an introvert, but a very loving and helpful husband! So yes, if itâs not fun stop using it, if youâre using it to replace other connection stop using it, but if you want to use it as a tool to meet people you wouldnât otherwise, discover new places in the city, or discover that person you bumped into actually fancied you back, I think go for it.
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Dating apps are the easiest way to meet people nowadays.
I have had some of the worst experiences ever in my life by meeting up with someone on a dating app, but also my current partner and I met on tinder and we have been together for a year and a half now.
What Iâve learned is be completely transparent with your intentions, learn to spot the red flags that someone is lying about their intentions, and be comfortable with something not working out even if there was some chemistry over text.
If you have brought it up with your therapist multiple times, it sounds like you need to just pull the trigger, and figure out definitively if it is for you. You can get 100,000 responses saying âgo for it!â but only you know what actually works for you.
Feb 26, 2025
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Like someone else said, one of the best, most freeing things is to leave the dating apps behind especially if you struggle with self esteem. I know people who have found amazing relationships from dating apps, but as a whole I believe they have done a great job at commoditizing romance and making interactions transactional; they want you to pay more money to keep swiping until your thumbs hurt. Combine that with the fact that all the major dating apps are owned by either Match Group or Bumble, data privacy concerns, and you now have an industry that treats dating like a mobile gacha game. Dating felt fun and natural for me the minute I left the apps behind. This is just my 2 cents, so take it with a grain of salt. Maybe they work for you, if so, more power to you!
Jan 21, 2025
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Itâs definitely a good way to meet people and get your feet wet if you havenât dated much in the past. But, if youâre looking for something serious, it might not be the best route. At least in my experience, the consumerist nature of dating apps makes it easy for people to toss one another aside in the hopes that theyâll find something better. Not saying that people irl are necessarily better, but the apps can be demoralizing for sure.
Feb 26, 2025
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