i have gotten a new fridge and a new stove from two different landlords this way - completely free of charge!! asking as an action opens the door for new connections and perspectives and is a much better alternative to feeling like you have to somehow assert your will on others to make your way through the world safely or successfully. it also is true that people love to share and talk about themselves, so asking is a great way to start out an interaction.
this sentiment is predicated upon the belief that people are good and want to help ! and that we can accomplish more together.
just thinking about this bc i called this antique shop and asked about an item i unfortunately left behind </3 but the person on the phone was more than happy to help, and my day is improved because 1) i tried and 2) i had a positive conversation with another person.
prescribing this as the cure to social anxiety for myself