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Everyone should have a yes era where they say yes to any and all things they want to do/find intriguing/feel drawn to regardless of what the rude little voice in their head might say.
When I was 20, in a new city for the summer and fresh out of an emotionally arduous situationship I had my first “yes” era. I said yes to everything and anything that sounded remotely interesting as long as it didn’t endanger my general health or leave me destitute. In this era I went on my first major camping trip, surfed, took a bus across the entirety of Oahu to party with a group of burning man 30 something’s I had just met, and had one of the most beautiful romantic rendezvous of my life - all because I said yes to things I would usually make excuses against doing or let fear keep me from doing them. And it was quite literally and metaphorically life changing!!
I’ve been thinking about how I need another yes era! Why should fear/anxiety win😤
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If your reservations are only rooted in abstract anxiety/self-doubt, and not concrete reason why it wouldn’t be good for you, DO IT!!! If someone thinks you’d be good for an opportunity, believe them
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don't get me wrong - saying no to things is a great practice for setting boundaries and it’s very empowering .. it’s also good to push yourself past those boundaries sometimes. say yes to things more and see how you feel about it after. maybe you’ll find yourself enjoying it a bit too much 🤭
say yes to the date. say yes to the job. say yes to that party invite. say yassss
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I have a very strong desire for control over every aspect of my life and I’ve never been able to roll with things. Lately I’m trying to let go of this so I can participate in my ‘friendships’, which I have really been neglecting in recent years. Today a friend texted and asked me to go to the farmers market with her. At first I felt scared (lol) and inclined to ignore the message but I decided instead I would agree to go, and within 5 minutes I was in her car with her. It was a total blur and I was anxious out of my mind but I felt very grateful to spend time with someone I love. I’m terrible at conversing but even just to stand beside her was nice. We hugged before parting ways. I am glad that I did this.
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Think: driving them to the airport during rush hour, moving furniture on a summer day, (in my case, see photo) cutting away at their badly overgrown garden when you are not a gardening gal. Or painting their bedroom on a whim, replacing their windshield fluid, or wrangling their demon cat for a trip to the vet.
I read a Manrepeller article (RIP) years ago that talked about how helping friends with these tedious, unrewarding tasks is where the real work of friendship begins. You don’t get so see how they get frustrated over brunch, but you do when you’re both unsuccessfully dragging a couch around a staircase corner, and getting To bond and troubleshoot that frustration opens whole new doors for closeness. This wisdom has never led me astray! I almost always leave these kinds of labor-based hangouts feeling closer and more held in friendship!
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