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For me is mostly walking listening to music, usually in nature, and then thinking of something yummy to eat and go to supermarket and cook it. also reading and writing is a fun way to spend time alone…
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I’ve always found it most comforting to sit and ponder when I’m feeling lonely. No music or any distractions. I feel like it helps center me when I think my thoughts through. Where is the feeling of loneliness coming from? Is it passing? Etc etc. When it’s a heavier feeling of loneliness, I have to walk and wonder, to enjoy my surroundings and review my gratitude for my life as it is.
May 16, 2024
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either going on a hike or just exploring and taking my time somewhere in nature. It helps me to get some perspective and reset. I prefer somewhere with a creek, I like looking at different rocks trying to find ones that have cool shapes/textures/colors. look for national/state forests or wildlife refuges near you!
for creative ruts, i’ll do an excercise sometimes where I look for weird shadows or leaves or anything really and try and turn those shapes into characters or just see how my brain reinterprets them. it’s a nice low stakes creative game
Jun 13, 2024
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Going on a walk without listening to music and better yet without my phone washes my brain clean. it’s a sort of version of meditation to me. I can’t meditate for more than 3 minutes but I can do this for an hour. It makes me feel like a real person amongst other people. I also tend to remember I’m a whole body with arms and legs and not just a brain. it gives me time for my brain to go empty or to think about something I didn’t realize I was trying to ignore.
Feb 27, 2024
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I like to remember that time is on your side, it will get easier as time goes by just for nature of it. So focusing on going through the day-to-day the best you can while being kind to yourself and letting the days past is what helped me.
It’s not easy, you have to go through the grief to come up on the other side.
But stick with the things that make your present more bearable and you WILL come up on the other side.
For me it was doing things for myself: listening to music, visiting close friends, cooking for myself, going on walks on nature, spending time alone and bored and finding new things I liked and enjoying my own company was life changing.
The loneliness is rough but it can be a great teacher (at least I like to think something had to come out of all that pain).
I guess it really depends on the break up the narratives you are telling yourself right now, but if you can be mindful about them, observe them, and let go of trying to understand and control everything they get less cruel. Right now you just need to survive and receive some kindness, later on you can build the story around it (Without the fog of the pain around it).
And for the love of god cut contact with them, their family and friends, at least for a while. rebuild yourself outside their zone of influence. Show vulnerability if you can, it can bring great support and lending ears, BE KIND TO YOURSELF (although have in mind sometimes over indulgence is not kind).
You will get through it, time is on your side.
Apr 18, 2024
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Hahahha maybe it is a cult! I loved what I read, I think I got through half of it, the exercises are fun and can give you great insights, but I guess the greatest tool it gives is the morning pages, still do it and it’s great for those who can’t meditate. But I heard there is a curse if don’t finish it and when I dropped some bad things happened so be warned I guess
Apr 24, 2024
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I don’t know the name exactly but it’s easy and really fun, all you need is cardboard glue and scissors. you can cut up silhouettes and decorate the theater (glued curtains are very cute), then just put a light behind it and play with, improvising or rehearsing and then showing to others, kid of 5 loved it (and so did I)
May 21, 2024