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Accepting the orange

I have a coworker who is an older man, close to retirement. He used to be homeless but got a job in our greenhouse where he helps us wash our plastics and sanitize houses. He’s covered in faded traditional tattoos and mysterious scars. We’ve nicknamed him “Pops.” His real name is the same as my brother’s. He constantly shares things with me and looks out for me on days when I’m running around in a panic. Occasionally he shows up in a MAGA hat and my boss has to remind him that we can’t wear anything political at work. This morning I was mixing soil and sneezed and he said “bless you” and offered me an orange. Tbh I wanted to be angry at him today, but it all melted away. It’s really easy to soothe our discomfort by vilifying others. It’s harder to recognize that people are a unique result of millions of factors and genes and events colliding over generations. Was thinking about the task of love today (it can be a task!! 😵‍💫) and thought of this bell hooks quote from All About Love, “When we choose to love we choose to move against fear—against alienation and separation. The choice to love is a choice to connect—to find ourselves in the other.” 🧡 Sending love to y'all today 🫂

@sillygirltypebeat

Nov 6, 2024

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Despite it all, still believing in love

At this point, I have no choice because if I did, I would have chosen a long time ago to save myself and stop believing. But for better or for worse, it is my constant

@lndsy

1d ago

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Letting love change you

truly nothing has altered my life in the way romantic love has. I was always so afraid of vulnerability and touch but once you start and even fail, you grow so much. Honestly, the trials of it are the most revealing. It seems so so scary but it is worth it always. And you both have to start from somewhere!! You are lucky that you’re friends and can hopefully work on communicating what you both are feeling in this moment as well. Maybe it does come a lonely place, but imagine if you healed that loneliness? Or even got an inch closer to understanding how to fill that void? The relationship may not be forever. This is true of any relationship. Have you had a turbulent friendship so far? If there are situations where this person tried to purposefully hurt your feelings, I’d reconsider. Otherwise, if you’re honest and communicative along the way, I think you could maintain that stability with them. I’d find ways to keep your sanity as well (journaling, going on walks, talking with [other] friends), as someone who has felt “crazy” in love It’s hard to change and allow change into your life. But how will you know what life could be like if you don’t try? It’s hard to force yourself to do it. I’m such a worrier; I even started writing fears and desires down about the slightest changes, only to look back days later even to see that they’re resolved and petty. Change can hurt you and scare you and make you look back at your past self and wonder how that was your life before these moments, but it is always worth trying something different, seeing your life in a different light. One of my favorite quotes is from “Giovanni’s Room” by James Baldwin:“Somebody….your father or mine, should have told us that not many people have ever died of love. But multitudes have perished, and are perishing every hour--and in the oddest places!-- for the lack of it.” This is all very lovey-dovey but I really think it’s worth seeing if it works, openly communicating with this person, and letting the change pass over you!

@evie

Nov 18, 2024

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Looking at the final shot in heat (1995)

I saw this yesterday at Prince Charles Cinema and the final shot kinda made me wanna pump my fist in the air at this triumph of cinema but someone else had already been told off for being rowdy so I resisted

@whildeyscotch

Jan 27, 2024

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INDEPENDENT cinema memberships

Support our independent cinema screens!! I am a Londoner so I have memberships with BFI, Prince Charles and Picturehouse and it is totally worth it, especially as watching movies takes up a good chunk of my personality and I dislike watching things at home. Advanced screenings, access to smaller films, discounted tickets are all great but it’s also just nice to support these places who do so much in preserving the British independent film scene which is currently in an abysmal state. Curzon, Everyman, The Garden, Genesis, ICA and many more are also all great and I would be members of them all if I could. Big up BFI especially because I probably wouldn’t have got as far in both my career and love of film without them, and the Northampton Filmhouse in my hometown which was my first independent cinema. These are of course London based examples but I encourage everyone to support their local independents 🫶🏻

@whildeyscotch

Jan 27, 2024

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Working in public in order to embarrass yourself into getting work done

If I’m working on my laptop or my notebook in a public place with other people working around me and I get bored so I get out my phone to start doomscrolling, I immediately think everyone around me is looking at me and judging me for being on my phone instead of working hard like they are. And I immediately get back to work. Embarrassment can be a good motivator! 

@whildeyscotch

Feb 7, 2024