Is patience, trust, understanding, commitment, loyalty, acceptance, respect; an active verb rather than a noun; a safe harbor, a bedrock foundation, and a warm hearth. It can wax and wane over time like the phases of the moon or the changing tides of the sea. It may not always be a perfectly distributed 50/50 effortâthere can be times where one is giving or receiving more than the otherâbut itâs going to be there as long as both parties choose to stoke the fire â¤ď¸âđĽ and I think it starts as simple friendship and grows with more time, familiarity, and mutual effort
May 14, 2024
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i think of love as an ongoing earnest conversation. itâs about laying your cards on the table with full trust and trying to do and give your best. we say falling in love very colloquially but loving necessitates intentionality and relevant expression. to do that, you need to be ok with constantly re-examining the terrain of your relationships and willing to honestly communicate needs and wants. love requires a lot from you but itâs so incredibly worth it to watch the eyes of the person you love light up because you tried for them. applies to other forms of love not just romantic of course!
May 15, 2024
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On one hand: it just flows. You can't get enough of them. Your eyes, their eyesâcould be the only thing that matters in the whole world. Their voice hits you like electricity. When alone, you wonder why you aren't with them. Mundane things, at their side, become adventures. You occupy your own universe that is a secret from all others.
And on the other hand: it is a labor. Your beloved, who stirs and ignites your affection so much, is also the one who most exposes your pride and weaknesses. As you dive into them and truly know them, you discover they are broken and selfish and human. And they discover that about you. The easy slide down the snowy hill of excitement becomes a long drag back up the other side.
But then the two of you put those parts together: combine the thrill and the sparkle with the messiness and the suffering. Your together love becomes something deeper and more enduring. You say: I see you fully but I choose you still, with all my heart and soul.
It becomes something that will withstand any storms that may come, something more mature and tested:
"Love does not consist in gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction." âAntoine de Saint-Exupery:
Mar 1, 2025
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romantic gestures (grand or small, whatever youâre into) balanced with honesty, understanding, acceptance, patience, communication and trust. compromise is important too but within reason! you shouldnât compromise to the point where you lose yourself or feel like youâre settling for the sake of love and the person you love shouldnât want that either. also, a lot of people want to be in a relationship for the sake of company and companionship and fail to see the other as their own person. so have standards, even if that means you wonât be in a relationship right away. love means being able to be an individual and appreciated as such. love should not be your identity, your identity should be present in how you love. i donât know i have a very practical but fantastical approachâŚmaybe itâs my taurus venus. personally i fancy a little fun and humor as well. if i canât be silly with my lover i donât want it.
May 14, 2024
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It lends a reflective and wistful tone to written communications imoâŚ
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My dad teases me about how when I was a little kid, my favorite thing to do when I was on the landline phone with somebodyâbe it a relative or one of my best friendsâwas to breathlessly describe the things that were in my bedroom so that they could have a mental picture of everything I loved and chose to surround myself with, and where I sat at that moment in time. Perfectly Imperfect reminds me of that so thanks for always listening and for sharing with me too đ
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