i think of love as an ongoing earnest conversation. it’s about laying your cards on the table with full trust and trying to do and give your best. we say falling in love very colloquially but loving necessitates intentionality and relevant expression. to do that, you need to be ok with constantly re-examining the terrain of your relationships and willing to honestly communicate needs and wants. love requires a lot from you but it’s so incredibly worth it to watch the eyes of the person you love light up because you tried for them. applies to other forms of love not just romantic of course!
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On one hand: it just flows. You can't get enough of them. Your eyes, their eyes—could be the only thing that matters in the whole world. Their voice hits you like electricity. When alone, you wonder why you aren't with them. Mundane things, at their side, become adventures. You occupy your own universe that is a secret from all others.
And on the other hand: it is a labor. Your beloved, who stirs and ignites your affection so much, is also the one who most exposes your pride and weaknesses. As you dive into them and truly know them, you discover they are broken and selfish and human. And they discover that about you. The easy slide down the snowy hill of excitement becomes a long drag back up the other side.
But then the two of you put those parts together: combine the thrill and the sparkle with the messiness and the suffering. Your together love becomes something deeper and more enduring. You say: I see you fully but I choose you still, with all my heart and soul.
It becomes something that will withstand any storms that may come, something more mature and tested:
"Love does not consist in gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction." —Antoine de Saint-Exupery:
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Is patience, trust, understanding, commitment, loyalty, acceptance, respect; an active verb rather than a noun; a safe harbor, a bedrock foundation, and a warm hearth. It can wax and wane over time like the phases of the moon or the changing tides of the sea. It may not always be a perfectly distributed 50/50 effort—there can be times where one is giving or receiving more than the other—but it’s going to be there as long as both parties choose to stoke the fire ❤️🔥 and I think it starts as simple friendship and grows with more time, familiarity, and mutual effort
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the work matters. fall in love with the work—the mundane, the exhaustive, doubling back, looking closer. the accolades come or they don’t but the work itself is worth loving
Mar 4, 2025
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wow everyone is out here appreciating the beauty in everything and it can’t help but calm your nerves. thank u all, keep it up!
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finally properly spoken to my work crush. my heart is full, i feel like skipping about and i’m low-key excited to do some work yunno.
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