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I’m looking to challange myself in this coming year to step outside my comfort zone. Remind/Reawaken the inner 19 year old who was spontaneous and took risks! Maybe I’ll
finally start writing that book, take up dance again or just have fun and remind myself that it’s all about feeding the inner child!
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I’ve been 30 for one week and I am at the crossroads of ”oppurtunity!” and “my life is falling apart.” I had a minor inconvenient birthday experience and slept through all milestone celebrations. I could say it’s feeling bleak right now but thats the joy of what life can be!
Sep 26, 2024
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I’ve taken some time to think about this, because so much I could say feels circumstantial. But here’s what I’ve come to:
I’m still technically early 30’s, but one thing I’ve noticed from myself and friends is a higher level of intentionality. There is an inherent drive to deepen bonds that are worth it, and moving energy away from those that are draining. In order to do that, you have to be intentional about building those connections. All my friends are busy, myself included, so we carve out time to spend together and make sure that happens at least monthly. I actually host a monthly game night which is intentionally very laid back and an opportunity to just have fun, because I know we all need it! I still make connections with new people, but there has to be a little something there for me to put my time and energy into creating something more.
I also found my focus shifting from short term to long term. That was uncomfortable for me. While I’m still a very in the moment person, I started actually thinking about how I wanted my life to look not just right now, but years from now.
It’s true that you’ll get a lot of clarity on who you are. I just am who I am, and I’m not trying things out anymore. That doesn’t mean I’m not open and curious and playful, but at my core I’m solid. Either people vibe with that or they don’t, it’s not personal to me. I don’t need to be liked by everyone, and I don’t need to like everyone.
Working on yourself is essential. We all have issues, most of them aren’t our fault, but it is our responsibility to work on them. We also all have core issues that will never fully go away, but can get better. Healing is a spiral and we’re never fully done. Life is healing, integrating, enjoying the new level, then leveling up again!
My 20s very much felt like a portal and now my 30s are feeling like a much different kind of one. Welcome to the club and HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!! 🥳
Jun 7, 2024
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Happy birthday! You have a great batch of years ahead of you, the best yet. I'm biased, but it's been my favorite decade so far (every year is better than the last, the idea of "peaking" is for chumps). Some thoughts!
Group trips - when you say "we should go to X someday," or "we should rent a house" "we should do a day trip to this cool thing or this sculpture garden" actually do it. Blow up the group text, have everyone agree on a day or week or a weekend and make it happen. People will start thinking about "settling down" and "having families" which makes everything that much harder to plan (depending on who your friends are -- I have friends with kids who still do it all). But do those trips, because they're really fun.
Cooking - get some nice staple kitchen stuff and start cooking. Cook for yourself, for dates, for friends, cook together.
It's ok to let go - Don't burn bridges if it's not toxic, but it's ok to let friendships fade if you've outgrown them and it's ok to recognize them for what they are. Sometimes you will grow together and sometimes you will grow apart. It's alright to let someone become an acquaintance. It can also be very hard to accept, but know that whatever you feel, it's ok.
Old friends - some people have known me through so many different phases of my life. Cherish those old friendships, and make the effort to deepen them. Keep doing those long phone calls, take a weekend to spend together, travel to see a concert together, be there for birthdays and other life events. Those relationships are really special. Same goes for family if that's possible.
Stay curious - you're on this app, so you're already curious. Keep reading, watching, hobbymaxxing. Keep trying things on and checking things out to see if you like them. Learn new stuff. That's not just for your thirties, that's for life.
Stretch and take care of your body - it’s your precious vessel. That's also for life.
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