one day a therapist told me that when you « work on yourself », it´s like progressing with onions layers. it’s so simple but it sticked with me and helped a lot when I didn’t feel a lot of progress and got frustrated somehow. it reminds you also that you never know everything about yourself or the human nature and that’s ok, it’s a process and it needs time to reach deeper and deeper layers
wish you the best in your journey 🌸
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feels very trite and toxic positivity-y but (at least for me) i think the problem is feeling pulled in too many different directions with not enough capacity / agency to make meaningful progress in any / all of them; that’s when acedia, anhedonia, et al set in
the solution is to just pick one thing that’s easy, and constantly address it. then do that with another thing. maybe a bigger thing after that. and so on until you’ve re-built (or in my case, built for the first time) trust in yourself that the things you want to, need to, and are capable of doing you will / are doing
throughput is really important, seeing the fruits of your labor is the only reason to keep planting seeds so you just gotta start with stuff that will gratify you enough to keep going (also for me, getting diagnosed + medicated + effective talk therapy-d were all instrumental to this realization / process if that’s something you can / want to look into)
Mar 21, 2024
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There’s a term I learned that I have found very useful- insight junkies. It is when a person in therapy seeks more and more insight, but never actually heals or transforms any of it. This can be kind of an issue is straight talk therapy- okay we’ve identified the issue, now what?
When you clean out a wound, you need to stop messing with it in order for it to heal. It needs to have some air to breathe. That’s never going to happen if you keep picking at it.
Try things on. Get playful. Make mistakes. TAKE ACTION! Change is not supposed to be easy or comfortable, but that doesn’t mean it can’t also be fun and exciting.
Feb 14, 2025
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Typically it boils down to forming habits you aspire to have. Which is infinitely more difficult than it sounds unfortunately. Especially if you aren’t already aware of what causes what you don’t like about yourself. That takes therapy and introspection. Just remember that at the end of the day change can’t happen over night, or at least the change that counts. Give yourself grace and time to evolve, because at the end of the day thats what life’s journey is all about.
Jun 7, 2024
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vinyls are expensive, but CDs are not. there are clocks that can read CDs so you can wake up with Tasty by Kelis, Enema of the State by Blink 182 or whatever ambient medieval concept album. it’s cute, it’s easy to program, you‘re organically in contact with an object to access the art. the thrill to go on a hunt to find your fav albums ever for 2€, or the joy of making it yourself by printing the cover, crafting some mixtapes, offering it to your loved ones as a love langage. possessing your fav music again (if internet goes down, you’ll still be entertain), the immersion into an entire universe for an hour instead of just playing some parts of it on random mode…
Apr 26, 2024
from Fire Walk with Me. it got stuck in my brain for weeks with a feeling of uncomfort; but that movie, that music…
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