takes the weight off the whole thing and I won't wonder if we are friends or if I'm leading anyone on or being presumptuous. I guess my favourite move would be if they did flirt subtly but then followed it up with a genuine hey-i-did-this-because-i-like-you.
So here are all the ways the genders have tried that I liked (but did not realise at the time) for research hahaha :-) Good luck for the novel!!
- Against a wall, hand up, leaning in
- Constantly offering the last bite of food (a sandwich in particular that got smaller and smaller as I refused, but never fully eaten, until I took the final piece)
- wrist touches and (gentle!) waist grabs
- bike rides (tells you to hold tight, fixes your helmet and all that jazz)
- hand over your hand when you're on the computer or doing crafts together
- very active eye contact and very close to my face, whenever we were talking
- lending their very nicely scented jacket, like actually perfumed, on a cold night
- late night intellectual texts (for real, when I say something and they deep dive and then we are discussing orca whales for the rest of the night)
- lending books and it has pencilled(!) notes of all their favourite parts, name-addressed to you
- when they look you in the eye in front of the entire group and say THIS GIFT IS FOR YOU, and then don't give out gifts to anyone else, post a travel thing.
- when they make eye contact as you enter a room, and then leave their friend group to spend the rest of the night with you
- Chair pull
- Moving you to the safer side of the road so you don't get splashed
God I am such an idiot.
Jun 11, 2024
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Guy 1: wore his long hair in a braid one day, danced just while goofing off and he somehow made it look super attractive (reader: he can barely dance), posted a photo of himself âsnowboardingâ down a volcano during winter break, recruited me for his short film project that involved several takes at the end of my character hugging his character đ (weâre married now)
Guy 2: wore a suit to a wedding (this man normally wore cargo shorts and tshirts heâd probably owned for a decade, which thereâs nothing wrong with it was just a particularly stark difference lol)
Guy 3: merely made silent eye contact a few moments longer than usual while smiling đ«
Girl 1: longtime friend but hadnât seen her face in a while due to long distance and her rarely posting pictures of herself anywhereâshe sent me some selfies and i was dazzled âš
Girl 2: already thought she was beautiful and interesting but had a real âoh noâ moment when her eyes lit up as she spoke passionately about her favorite Victorian novel (also when she recalled exactly where an obscure quote from an academic journal had come from, inCLUDING the year of publication đ€Ż)
Jul 14, 2024
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So one of my flexes is that actually I had a great first kiss experience. I was 15, it was with my girlfriend at the time. We had been dating on and off for a few months (this was both our first like serious relationship that counted so it was pretty messy in soooo many ways). We had been best friends for a long time before dating and we always had feelings for each other.
We were in my house playing Dictator on my iPad, sitting on a bean bag in my room. We were cuddling and the tension was over the roof, and after holding the most intense stare ever I ask "what?" (and I knew what was happening but I wanted to play dumb so that she would say it and then I would not have to start it because I was nervous and we had never kissed and thought she might reject me?) anyway and she went "god, I hope I don't regret this" (which like looking back no wonder I was afraid of getting rejected and like damn bitch but also we were teens and she was very nervous too). So she KISSED ME and everything inside me exploded. We proceeded to make out for like a full 40 minutes with some breaks and like got hands under shirts and also this was the first time I ever touched a boob and it was MINDBLOWING and AWESOME (i love boobs).
The breaks we took in between were also pretty sweet. Our relationship up to this point and also after was full of hiding because neither of us wanted our families to know we were together so we were always looking to get intimate in positions were breaking apart at a moment's notice would give us plausible deniability (I still was a cishet man so it wasn't a closet thing back then, but neither of us was ever very close to our families that way). We would play a couple of rounds of Dictator and then make out in the ad breaks. Also my dog was around and wanted to play and was SUCH a bother. In the end the secrecy wasn't effective because the bean bag was right in front of my door (which I was not allowed to close) and we noticed at some point my mom was passing my room on the way out of a room we never saw her walk into in the first place...? So she definitely saw us, we just don't know at what part (hopefully not when we were getting handsy LOL).
We dated for a couple of months more, broke up because I left on a semester abroad, got back together after two years and had a much better, healthier, steady relationship for that time. We don't speak anymore (but that's a story for ANOTHER day) but last we spoke about this we both remember this kiss very fondly.
Oct 17, 2024
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He was particularly fixated on changing his style. He was no longer comfortable, he wanted to look good, feel good. He often asked me for advice, he wanted an honest opinion from a friend (he had also asked another friend of ours in common). He asked for honesty without sugarcoating it: I went into detail on which colours would surely highlight his light-blue/green-ish eyes or his complexion (I insisted on how blue navy wouldâve suited him), I told him it would have been perfect if he wore a nice shirt every now and then. Simple jeans, more classic cut pants. A good haircut. I did not see him for a few days, then...
He showed up at Uni, walked by me and I didnât even recognise him, he proceeded to sit by my side and I didnât even turn around because I thought he was a random person that I didnât know. He touched my shoulder and said, "Hey, we donât say hi anymore?" with a big bright smile. He really took everything literally.
Friends?
Sure.
Did I pay attention to a single word that was said that day in class?
Absolutely not.
I want to scream now.
Jul 16, 2024
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it's totally cool to age and society still isn't equipped to deal with that.
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Sometimes you try your best and everything seems to hit the fan no matter how much you try, so you take that raincheck and take yourself out for a day.
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This is what I call it hahahah made by mums everywhere but the greased up version is sold along stalls in Mumbai. Two regular slices of white bread, buttered, and the middle filling is cream cheese with red onions, coriander/cilantro, tomatoes and some minced chillis. All veggies chopped mini cube size so they blend with the cheese. Toasted crispy.
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