I used to hate both spending time by myself and being single. would do whatever I could to avoid it. It made me feel unimaginably anxious
Years, lots of therapy, and some really wonderfully healing friendships later, I not only enjoy spending time alone, but have found a level of peace that gives me much higher standards for my romantic relationships, rather than needing to fill the silence
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i started going to the cinema by myself last year and its the best thing ever. I dont know why it scared me so much to do things alone, however doing things solo actually made my social anxiety better. I love just hanging out by myself now; going to the cinema; a nature walk; solo study date at a cafe. Doing things alone will heal something in you
Oct 1, 2024
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I'm 25 and have never been in a serious relationship. In fact, the only time that I haven't been single was for two-ish months when I was 15. I'll go on a dates and hangout with someone for a month or so every 2-3 years but nothing ever comes out of. That's either bc they don't want anything serious or we just don't vibe together. To put the final nail in my coffin, I don't take dating apps seriously enough to find anything worth it on there too.
It can be lonely, and I find myself occasionally doubting my worth to the world around me... But then I talk to people who are in relationships and hear the shit they have to deal with, and it's like an instant cure to all loneliness and self doubt LOL.
I also just enjoy my time alone to be honest. I also lovvve love love having the whole bed to myself and my cat (he takes up enough room as is bc he loves to lay horizontally haha). I, along with everyone else who has ever existed, have problems that I want to work out in my life before I go out and actively search for a partner.
When I need company, I have my friends to pour my love onto! I spend a lot of time with them doing things that are fulfilling such as community work, learning crafts, watching movies and discussing them.
I will always save space in my heart to finding someone I love romantically, but for now I am focusing on having fun, building a good friend group, taking care of my mind/body/soul. I've accepted that the romance will come when I am ready for it.
Feb 27, 2025
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growing up I spent a majority of my time alone. I was pretty socially anxious and insecure but I also just had niche hobbies and interest that I enjoyed in solitude since it was hard to find others to share them with. as i’ve gotten older i’ve realized how quickly solitude can become isolation and I found (when deprived by the pandemic and other life changes around that time) that i had a deep need for community and friendship that I had neglected.
now i’m a lot more comfortable in my own skin and confident socially, and while an empty day at home used to be very comforting to me I can’t stand them now. I need to get out of the house and at least be around others haha.
opposite to mouse‘s lyric, I took the myers briggs and swapped all my Is for Es
Jun 13, 2024
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Jun 15, 2024
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Put on the robe, turn on adult swim or whatever, crank the ac, eat a late night snack in one bed and sleep in the other. The freedom of impersonal liminal space.
Oct 21, 2024
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Aug 1, 2024