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I may not have always had the best relationship with my mother but I’m lucky to have had a doting silly goofy stay-at-home working artist dad who would do anything for me. He taught me everything I know, made me go hiking especially when I didn’t want to, and encouraged me in all of my artistic pursuits! Happy Father’s Day 🫶
Jun 16, 2024
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It has been the greatest thing to become a girl dad. I’ve been able to be more available than my dad has ever been able to be — that’s not a dig at him, he’s always been an incredible dad but he worked and worked and worked for us to have a better life. I don’t think he ever learned how to brush my sister’s hair, something I get to do every day. I don’t think he ever bought groceries with one of us during the middle of the day, something that’s a part of my weekly routine. I am realizing that the guilt that comes with being the oldest child of an immigrant, that inner pressure and need to succeed, might not have anything to do with my career but everything to do with my ability to be the dad my father could never be: available and open and involved.
My dad was incredible for the few hours a day I got to see him after he got home from work and that sacrifice allowed me to build a career that’s flexible enough to be a stay-at-home parent. I’ll never be able to thank him enough for that.
I know there are some parents here (happy late Mother’s Day / early Father’s Day) who get this, and some who will get this soon enough. Be the parent you wished your parents could have been. And if you were lucky to have amazing parents like I was, try to be even better than them.
Jun 16, 2024
My dad always said he based his single father parenting on Harry Dean Stanton in this. Which is funny because its both so accurate (my dad also never remembers what food I hate but is good at picking out clothes I like) and so inaccurate (my dad is dependable and financially responsible). Ive always thought it shows how even though he might not always be the best dad at remembering stuff and being exactly what I want him to be, he always loves me and is there when I need him. Plus a (perhaps over) reliance and trust in my independence and creativity.
Mar 6, 2024
Ahhh yes, creative dad stays at home with wild toddler. It’s the greatest thing. She’s coloring within the lines now (I don't feed her if she messes up) ((kiddddinggggg)). We go on long walks. We do coffee runs together and she’s even learned how to tap-to-pay and tip 20%. Most days are easy; some days are brutal. But on the brutal days I have literal thousands of photos and videos of her to remind me that this sacrifice of being home while mom works is worth it, and that I can be more physically & emotionally present than my dad could have ever wished to be. Trying to cherish it. (Also if you were wondering, yes I am a behemoth)
Apr 12, 2024
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My dad teases me about how when I was a little kid, my favorite thing to do when I was on the landline phone with somebody—be it a relative or one of my best friends—was to breathlessly describe the things that were in my bedroom so that they could have a mental picture of everything I loved and chose to surround myself with, and where I sat at that moment in time. Perfectly Imperfect reminds me of that so thanks for always listening and for sharing with me too 💌
Feb 23, 2025
Schedule sent my resignation email for the morning, effective immediately ✅💅
Feb 27, 2025
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I’ve been thinking about how much of social media is centered around curating our self-image. When selfies first became popular, they were dismissed as vain and vapid—a critique often rooted in misogyny—but now, the way we craft our online selves feels more like creating monuments.
We try to signal our individuality, hoping to be seen and understood, but ironically, I think this widens the gap between how others perceive us and who we really are. Instead of fostering connection, it can invite projection and misinterpretation—preconceived notions, prefab labels, and stereotypes. Worse, individuality has become branded and commodified, reducing our identities to products for others to consume.
On most platforms, validation often comes from how well you can curate and present your image—selfies, aesthetic branding, and lifestyle content tend to dominate. High engagement is tied to visibility, not necessarily depth or substance. But I think spaces like PI.FYI show that there’s another way: where connection is built on shared ideas, tastes, and interests rather than surface-level content. It’s refreshing to be part of a community that values thoughts over optics.
By sharing so few images of myself, I’ve found that it gives others room to focus on my ideas and voice. When I do share an image, it feels intentional—something that contributes to the story I want to tell rather than defining it. Sharing less allows me to express who I am beyond appearance.
For women, especially, sharing less can be a radical act in a world where the default is to objectify ourselves. It resists the pressure to center appearance, focusing instead on what truly matters: our thoughts, voices, and authenticity. I’ve posted a handful of pictures of myself in 2,500 posts because I care more about showing who I am than how I look.
In trying to be seen, are we making it harder for others to truly know us? It’s a question worth considering.
Dec 27, 2024