I feel like im always the friend to initiate plans and go out and never the friend invited out by others. over time, and especially post-covid lockdown, I’ve basically stopped trying and therefore, spend a lot of time alone 🥲
Jun 29, 2024
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is it just me or does everyone realize that as you get older, you make less and less friends because you don't trust anyone but your closest friends?
i feel like it's so hard to make friends nowdays and it probably not just me who feels this way. everyone prefers to stay cozy at home, mostly watching films or smth instead of going on a coffee and a walk, people are also preoccupied with their own stuff, and rarely anyone wants to go out and have fun ¿
idk it's kinda weird because when i used to think that i would be 18 , i would have a friend group, i wasn't thinking of having one good friend who i only see two times a year...
and i've also noticed that people are chronically online and most of them don't have a social life anyway?? it's actually sad to think because life isn't supposed to be spent on tiktok :/
i think it's time to bring back book clubs or something
or maybe i just don't have friends and needed to yap a bit 😇
Oct 28, 2024
This is actually so easy and yet.
You're capable of meeting all of your own needs and when you accept this (and expect this people are just automatically drawn in.
If there's a movie you wanna go see, make the plan to go see it by yourself, and next time you're in a group of people (at work at a bar whateva) share with the group that you're going to see the movie on this date at this time and anyone is free to come.
You'll be surprised at how many people will join on things. And any time anyone doesn't, it's nothing to you bc you were gonna go by yourself anyway.
People are just really scared to invite people to things and even more scared to invite themselves. So just be the person to invite. If they come that's gorgeous if they don't that's also gorgeous you get to see the film either way (or go to the concert or museum or whatev)
Feb 15, 2025
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easy: delete the apps, stop dating, consider the things you find interesting/attractive in others and just do those things yourself, hangout with friends, read a book, take a class, take a walk, drink some coffee, drink some water, visit the beach, visit a museum, go to the movies, go to the club, go to bed.
Jul 2, 2024
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reading a new friends substack and resonating so hard with her post about working to overcome her social anxiety, introversion, and shame to become more comfortable and outgoing. not only did this inspire me that i need to pick up my own substack again, but also that becoming less of a weirdo in social settings is possible for me too 🤞🏼
Jul 3, 2024
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bars:
* rainbo club
* california clipper
* inner town pub
* sleeping village
* best intentions
* the hi-lo
* easy does it
* outside voices
* the owl (but only after the 2am bars close)
pizza:
* pequods
* malnati’s
(deep dish is a myth and no chicagoan actually eats that)
breakfast:
* lula cafe
*flying saucer
* middlebrow (also for lunch or dinner)
* allez cafe
* kasama
lunch/dinner:
* 90 miles cuban cafe
* club lucky
* rootstock
* all together now
* yours truly
* elske (fancy, michelin star)
i prob have more but i haven’t lived there in 3 years (plus 2 years of covid) so i haven’t experienced chicago in its full glory since 2019 🥲
Jul 2, 2024