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in
* being friends w me
* building community
* giving yourself & others grace and understanding
* reading more books
* drinking 2-3 glasses of wine and chit chatting
* drinking coffee at cute lil cafes and chit chatting
* laying down as often as possible
* going clubbing (maybe)
* being my friend
out
* being “too cool”
* caring what others think about us (save for constructive, good faith feedback)
* taking shots
* yachts / PJs / opulence / billionaires
* not being my friend
rec some of your ins/outs this summer ☀️
Jun 29, 2024
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Ins: not giving a fuck / festivals / vodka crans / biker shorts / tennis / taking things a day at a time / walks / good music / iced coffee / spontaneous trips to the beach / flirting / good reads / linen pants / little treats / coffee shops / yoga
out: exes/ negativity / hard seltzer / staying at home moping / making excuses / Starbucks / rum / waiting around for people who aren't prioritizing you / skirts
Apr 18, 2024
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IN-- flirting indiscriminately / chasing the ice cream truck down the street / drinking morning coffee on the back porch / not letting the Texas sun win / being young and turnt
OUT-- bringing books to the pool and not reading / shame / impending doom / high screen time / wine or beer before liquor
Apr 17, 2024
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IN: casual hangouts with friends, lying down, gold shimmery sun screen oil, carrying 4 pairs of sunglasses around, tomatoes, playing a sport in the park, Tinariwen, sunbathing in the garden, reading in a hammock, trainers, wearing bikinis out and about, international lovers, taking annual leave
OUT: takeaways, being scared of bugs, SAD lamp, caffeine, flip flops, reading emails, sending emails, addictive phone games
Apr 20, 2024
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easy: delete the apps, stop dating, consider the things you find interesting/attractive in others and just do those things yourself, hangout with friends, read a book, take a class, take a walk, drink some coffee, drink some water, visit the beach, visit a museum, go to the movies, go to the club, go to bed.
Jul 2, 2024
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reading a new friends substack and resonating so hard with her post about working to overcome her social anxiety, introversion, and shame to become more comfortable and outgoing. not only did this inspire me that i need to pick up my own substack again, but also that becoming less of a weirdo in social settings is possible for me too 🤞🏼
Jul 3, 2024
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bars:
* rainbo club
* california clipper
* inner town pub
* sleeping village
* best intentions
* the hi-lo
* easy does it
* outside voices
* the owl (but only after the 2am bars close)
pizza:
* pequods
* malnati’s
(deep dish is a myth and no chicagoan actually eats that)
breakfast:
* lula cafe
*flying saucer
* middlebrow (also for lunch or dinner)
* allez cafe
* kasama
lunch/dinner:
* 90 miles cuban cafe
* club lucky
* rootstock
* all together now
* yours truly
* elske (fancy, michelin star)
i prob have more but i haven’t lived there in 3 years (plus 2 years of covid) so i haven’t experienced chicago in its full glory since 2019 🥲
Jul 2, 2024