i have a fear of reaching out or making plans because i am afraid of bothering people (insane i know) and being rejected :') however i typically vocalize this explicitly to people i care about so they don't feel like i hate them and i am trying hard to practice initiating stuff (exposure therapy). the times i have initiated plans or organized a function have gone rly well though so...i dont know. its hard for me to get over. i think most people are also just thinking about themselves....as the previous reply said. i want to be an initiator really bad.
Jun 29, 2024
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Even if it doesn’t sound like the most exciting plan ever! I think it’s so easy to get stuck in hermit mode if you enjoy your own company. Also it’s nice to be invited to things and the more you say yes the more people will think of you when they’re looking for someone to invite
May 5, 2024
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Instead of making up an excuse, coming up with fake alternative plans, or flaking last minute, I force myself to say YES to every social invitation I receive. I have to go and make one new friend (if applicable). I only say no when I have another prior commitment, but I always say YES when I have “tentative“ plans with myself. It gets me out of the house, making new connections, and learning new things!
Feb 12, 2024
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I have a very strong desire for control over every aspect of my life and I’ve never been able to roll with things. Lately I’m trying to let go of this so I can participate in my ‘friendships’, which I have really been neglecting in recent years. Today a friend texted and asked me to go to the farmers market with her. At first I felt scared (lol) and inclined to ignore the message but I decided instead I would agree to go, and within 5 minutes I was in her car with her. It was a total blur and I was anxious out of my mind but I felt very grateful to spend time with someone I love. I’m terrible at conversing but even just to stand beside her was nice. We hugged before parting ways. I am glad that I did this.
Feb 8, 2025
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i almost always have "avoid highways" turned on when using google maps so i can see whats goin' on in the city. highways are soulless and i avoid i them as much as i can.
if you've got the time, it's best way to see a sight you might've never seen otherwise. i've found lots of good signs, art, and restaurants this way. makes having to drive somewhere a little more interesting because heck....life's about the journey. ❤️
Jan 23, 2024
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always thought i had to wait for my life to be amazing to start writing it down...turns out it was already pretty cool and i regret all the stuff i can't remember anymore. also just a helpful mental practice to get your thoughts out of your brain and on some paper so you don't have to worry about holding them all in there. spending extra time thinking about positive moments in your life is also a good way to help your brain default to positive thinking more often, like building a muscle. i make it fun by cutting and pasting a bunch of pictures and stuff so it feels like a craft instead of a chore, otherwise i won't really do it.
Jun 30, 2024
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dating apps and applying for jobs are both cooked beyond belief.
you'll never know if you never try ❤️
Sep 16, 2024