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i am starting to realise how detrimental & unfair it is to not only myself but also the people around me because i then hold them to unreachable standards.
we are learning!! not there yet but slowly and surely
Jul 2, 2024

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Perfectionism is the main reason why I've turned down most opportunities in my life, because what if I can't deliver the standard I'm aiming for?
Jul 3, 2024
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envy I feel this so much!! It’s such a toxic trait of mine to stop trying for something when I didn’t get it right the first time
Jul 4, 2024
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envy I feel this so much!! It’s such a toxic trait of mine to stop trying for something when I didn’t get it right the first time
Jul 4, 2024
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I can't tell if I'm winning or losing the battle. Second thought: If I lose the battle to letting go of perfectionism, am I really losing? **spirals**
Jul 2, 2024
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I’m fighting that battle too šŸ˜… We’ll get there!!
Jul 2, 2024
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pikoliu šŸ’œšŸ’œšŸ’œ
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Perfectionism is rooted in an irrational desire to exert control in order to achieve a specific outcome. It often also comes from a critical self that has internalized the message that one has to be perfect to be worth loving rather than being able to trust that people who love you will love you unconditionally despite or even because of your imperfections…
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letting ppl down is inevitable. i don’t strive for it but it’s brought me peace knowing that to be a human is to disappoint here and there.
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I have really delayed so much of my healing by clinging to certain people or ideas, forgetting that life doesn’t often turn out the way that you imagine. (It can be better than you imagine if you simply let it happen!!) I have been living my life in devotion to ā€œwhat-ifsā€ and half baked desires instead of just enjoying who I am, what I have and what’s in front of me. No more of that!!! What good can come out of forcing it? I’m trying to go with the flow and give myself permission to change and accept the change around me and be happy.
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i really also think about how much boys are taught ways to perform masculinity & how it is legitimised through tangible things like building a career etc but with women i find that from a young age our identity, behaviours, & thoughts are always spoken about in relation to other people/things — gender roles within the family, how we’re perceived by men, our friendships with other women, our relationships with material things etc etc — and this shows up in the labels that women are often given too! so and so is someone’s daughter, girlfriend, wife, mother etc etc. i envy the freedom of boyhood so much, the freedom to just be (this is not to discount the toxicity of traditional masculinity, i just think that boys are still afforded more ā€œplayā€ and therefore have more opportunities to develop their sense of self).
maybe i am also biased because of how i’ve grown up & whatnot but i never really understood what it meant to quote unquote be a woman or perform femininity. i only saw this modelled within my nurturing friendships with women as i’ve gotten older but when i was younger, in church it was always ā€œok well don’t do this or that because x y z will happen to men if you doā€ or within my extended family it was often ā€œare you seeing anyone? when are you having kidsā€. damn what happened to asking about how i’m doing or what my dreams are!!!
long rant sorry !! but that’s my long winded way of saying ā€œi feel youā€ haha
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