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finding something COMPLIMENTARY to say to anyone you interact with
this is A life hack I learned at age 6 when I complimented a grocery store clerk’s earrings and she blushed. Now I implement it every chance I get. People really like when you notice the style choices they made, the small ways they arrange themselves, their nails, jewelry, etc. It feels good to be seen. Feels obvious but true
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@sofe
Jul 15, 2024
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@wwb
I love this. I’m also horrible with names so I work a bit of name repetition in here to give me a fighting chance at capturing that detail. “the dude with the cool shirt is Jim“ is a lot easier to remember.
Jul 16, 2024
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@merebear
I love this + want to add the corollary that this also goes for people that aren’t strangers - once you become acquainted with people you can start figuring out slightly more personal things to compliment them on as you notice them. “I‘m impressed at how you handle stress you’re very collected rn even though work sounds hard” “wow that was so graceful!! How do you move like that” etc. Trains you to look for the good in ppl and invites them to tell you about how they developed those skills & as long as you mean the compliment you won’t sound like you’re kissing ass
Jul 15, 2024
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@sofe
merebear huge agree - training the muscles in your brain that seek the beautiful and unique aspects of people is one of the nicest forms of exercise you can do
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Complimenting strangers
I’ve always had struggles starting/maintaining conversations, so when I was in college, I would find something to compliment a stranger on (typically a cashier or someone I had to talk to) because I remembered how good I felt when I unexpectedly got a compliment from someone. When I myself became a cashier at a coffee shop, it was a really nice way to make someone feel good if they looked bored or upset. It also helps with awkward silences. I still do it when I can or when the situation calls for it, and it’s so nice to see people react and smile.
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@hooked_oncharlie
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COMPLIMENTING PEOPLE
okay this can be hit or miss but if I’m out like at a local market, gig or just walking through town there are always cool people around me and if I want to talk to them then I’ll just start with a compliment if they’re responsive that opens up a conversation and if not then you’ve just made their day a bit better! My main advice is just going out more and if someone seems cool TELL THEM!!
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@adrien_fell_over
May 26, 2025
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COMPLIMENT THEIR LEWK
If I can‘t find anything to say I usually will compliment their outfit, glasses, jewelry/piercings, tattoos, anything. This has saved me many awkward silences bc people love to talk about the meaning or where they got a certain item. And also has been my gateway into introducing myself to many cool-looking strangers. :)
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Allowing things to have their season
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Referring to activities as “playing”
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