iโve always felt soooo bogged down by any kind of scheduled events in my life, even if itโs something fun that i should theoretically look forward to. call it ADHD, PDA autism, idk- but to mitigate this dread i find it helpful to write everything down in an online planner (use whatever system works for you). some tips:
1. writing down every little thing enables me to see it all in one place and not worry that thereโs something else iโve forgotten about. knowing i have even just one or two things coming up can feel overwhelming but as soon as i can actually see each item in front of me, it feels a lot less daunting.
2. looking at my schedule every morning helps me mentally prepare for the day
3. i used to spend so much energy thinking about an upcoming activity for the entire day leading up to it because i didnโt want to accidentally forget about it. now, i set alarms for when i need to start preparing for an activity- that way i can put it out of my mind until i actually need to start thinking about it.
i know some people feel really burdened by planners/calendars (i refused for the longest time because i like spontaneity and not feeling tied down) but just give it a try and seeee
Aug 1, 2024
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the shortage/me feeling like normal spongebob on adhd meds had me set up a whole system otherwise i would be a hot mess
handwritten paper planner - pref one with a weekly timeline because i love seeing it laid out in full. this is 50% me just wanting to decorate and use fun stationary and 50% knowing if i dont write it down/see it laid out- i will forget </3
digital calendar/reminders - for the big stuff!! Anything reoccurring that may slip my mind, color coded based on whats going on ie, work shifts, reoccurring plans w friends, personal time for hobbies, i also have a bunch of reminders that try to get me to sleep/keep me on track and its been the best, i luv that includes travel time too and will remind me 15-30 mins in advance of when i need to leave bc i love to get wrapped up/ lose track of time and run out of the door
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i enjoy making plans
lists of to do
organizing everything in a way that makes sense and ordering what can be done soon and what can be done later
and then i just breathe once i have everything set and laid out
it helps me prioritize, time manage, and honestly relieve anxiety
Jun 13, 2024
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i need structure to survive and it helps to add things to my calendar, because in my brain it's like i've "signed up" to do something for a certain amount of time. whether its a hobby, workout, researching a project, an errand etc it goes in my calendar or to-do list.
even if i already did x thing that day, i put it on the list just to cross it off which feels nice :-)
it helps me not gaslight myself into thinking i didn't do anything because i can look at the list!
Jun 4, 2024
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setting ur lockscreen wallpaper to rotate through a bunch of pre-selected photos but making one of them a nude and you never know when itโs gonna show up. just to keep things exciting
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