just went on a first date for the first time in a while and it was so fun n sweet to just get to know each other without the usual expectation of a kiss/hook up at the end. i really think this expectation is tied to our craving for instant gratification. like we (ideally) have this really awesome date with someone and itâs someone new and shiny and appealing so of course it makes sense to go for a kiss. and kissing is so fun! i love it! and in some situations, it feels right to kiss on the first date â listen to your heart! but i just think we should try to take our time more with these things and aim for the delayed gratification that is made to feel so out of reach under capitalism. capitalism tries to convince us that we donât have enough time and so, we think everything good has to happen so quick and in the heat of the moment, but there is so much time and good things take time and you deserve good things! also the more time you spend getting to know someone, the more life theyâll get to experience, and the more stories theyâll have to tell you â we tell ourselves stories in order to live and to love <3
ok philosophical tangent over, but i just have one more non-philosophical thing to say: what ever happened to âgoing steadyâ ? letâs bring that back to 21st century dating culture!