i guess it's super cliche but i really felt better after i went on a date. i made it clear that i wanted to keep it casual and actually had a nice time. it's refreshing to feel someone interested in you, kind of brings things into perspective.
Apr 24, 2024
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just went on a first date for the first time in a while and it was so fun n sweet to just get to know each other without the usual expectation of a kiss/hook up at the end. i really think this expectation is tied to our craving for instant gratification. like we (ideally) have this really awesome date with someone and it’s someone new and shiny and appealing so of course it makes sense to go for a kiss. and kissing is so fun! i love it! and in some situations, it feels right to kiss on the first date – listen to your heart! but i just think we should try to take our time more with these things and aim for the delayed gratification that is made to feel so out of reach under capitalism. capitalism tries to convince us that we don’t have enough time and so, we think everything good has to happen so quick and in the heat of the moment, but there is so much time and good things take time and you deserve good things! also the more time you spend getting to know someone, the more life they‘ll get to experience, and the more stories they’ll have to tell you – we tell ourselves stories in order to live and to love <3
ok philosophical tangent over, but i just have one more non-philosophical thing to say: what ever happened to ”going steady” ? let’s bring that back to 21st century dating culture!
Sep 7, 2024
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Though some people might find this kind of depressing I actually see it as the opposite. It’s really been a while since I’ve done this but I see it necessary to go on a date with yourself once in a while. Go to a cafe, take a walk without any destination in mind, or you might as well go to the cinema on your own.
More than an act of self love I perceive it as a way to embrace solitude and get to know yourself more; It brings so much inner peace and helps to heal that part of yourself that finds loneliness daunting. There is a beauty in everything and solitude is not the exception.
Oct 7, 2024
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Just got back from a date :p I used to think that I couldn’t go out and date until I had all my shit together, but I don’t and neither do they and we had a great time and convo. it could all be so simple
Feb 15, 2025
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takes a while but it's romantic in a very eighteenth century kind of way
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i've been very sad lately and libby has a bunch of audiobooks for free so i kinda just listen to essays and history books as to not let a single thought form in my mind and go about my day
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