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i've been seeing tiktoks of people asking their friends to pick them up from the airport/help moving and no one agrees. honestly what kind of a friend are you if you only care about doing fun stuff together and disappearing in the time of need. and honestly same goes for ignoring stuff in public like you see a woman carrying heavy bags and you just walk by? or when people don't offer their seats in transport for the elderly or sick? very strange to me. be kind to others personal boundaries are overrated
Sep 14, 2024
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every few years when some demented opinion piece starts circulating about not “inconveniencing” your friends, i feel sorry for people who subscribe to it. i love helping my friends move, fix things, figure things out together! and i am learning to love asking for the same help. we can reduce each other’s suffering ♥
Feb 1, 2025
Think: driving them to the airport during rush hour, moving furniture on a summer day, (in my case, see photo) cutting away at their badly overgrown garden when you are not a gardening gal. Or painting their bedroom on a whim, replacing their windshield fluid, or wrangling their demon cat for a trip to the vet.
I read a Manrepeller article (RIP) years ago that talked about how helping friends with these tedious, unrewarding tasks is where the real work of friendship begins. You don’t get so see how they get frustrated over brunch, but you do when you’re both unsuccessfully dragging a couch around a staircase corner, and getting To bond and troubleshoot that frustration opens whole new doors for closeness. This wisdom has never led me astray! I almost always leave these kinds of labor-based hangouts feeling closer and more held in friendship!
Apr 6, 2024
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asked best friend to sit with a group of people i’ve been trying to get to know and not only did he give me a queasy look he said :/ “they’re loud” and i said “you haven’t even tried hanging out with them” and he looked disgusted. he then said he was gonna try and then they weren’t in their usual spot so he just went where we usually go. wanted to DIE when that happened because i love him and want to hang out with him but i also want to get to know this new group of people and i don’t think it’s fair for him to not even try to talk to them. when he wanted me to sit with aileen i didn’t act like that and if he wanted me to sit with other people i wouldn’t act like that. why does he act like that :(
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