Rec | HELPING AND BEING HELPED BY YOUR FRIENDS

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helping and being helped by your friends

every few years when some demented opinion piece starts circulating about not “inconveniencing” your friends, i feel sorry for people who subscribe to it. i love helping my friends move, fix things, figure things out together! and i am learning to love asking for the same help. we can reduce each other’s suffering ♥

@bigstrongguy

Feb 1, 2025

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@starboy02

i LOVE helping my friends with stuff!! i hate it when they apologize for sharing things about their lives cuz it’s like!!! i love you!!! though setting boundaries with that kind of stuff is important. but like. yes bitch let me help you be the best person you can become

Feb 2, 2025

@kellxoxo

sooo agree. the “you dont owe anyone anything” mentality has done major damage to the friendship industry

Feb 2, 2025

@spiky

it makes me happy knowing there are people out there who think like this too

Feb 1, 2025

@bigstrongguy

spiky me too <3 !!

Feb 1, 2025

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