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this year has been all about getting “out there” for me. since i’ve been doing concert photography more, i’ve come to realize that it really never hurts to ask - even if the ask seems outlandish at the time. if the opportunity doesn’t open itself up to you, then it wasn’t meant for you anyways!
i am someone who deals with imposter syndrome quite a bit, and i’ve had to come to realize that i have to do the scary things in order for me to achieve what i want to (and to make them not so scary over time)!
this applies to relationships as well, but i’m not so much focused on that in this particular phase of life as i am on my hobbies/career.
anyways: DO THE SCARY THING. ASK THE SCARY/CRAZY QUESTION. YOU’LL NEVER KNOW WHAT WILL HAPPEN IF YOU DON’T TRY. DON’T LIVE A LIFE OF “WHAT IFS”!
(this is aggressive bc i’m mostly trying to remind myself of it)
Oct 14, 2024
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alt title: spontaneity
other folks have already sung the praises of learning to appreciate the mundane, and they're right but there are probably some obvious ways you can circumvent mundanity in your day to day – you know you better than anyone; what does your heart yearn for? what do you wish was a more active part of your life?
then just fucken go out there and do it. do it in the scariest way possible. lower the barriers you've constructed around yourself to keep you safe and comfortable, because those things are what define mundanity. reduce the friction to do medium-challenging or medium-scary stuff by doing big scary stuff. then do it again. and again, and again
it's going to be exhausting, there are going to be lulls between the times when you do the big-scary-thing that opens doors, but the more you do it the easier it gets and the more momentum builds from initial pushes
november 2023 i was taking djing lessons, and i had made some progress but had never dreamed of actually playing for people (or at least not like, any time soon.) after a lesson i saw an instagram post about an open decks that very night. i forced myself to go – and absolutely fucked up my ~15 minute set. but a year later, i was invited by one of the hosts to play another open decks. then a month later, my friend asked me to dj vinyl for her birthday. two weeks later i got booked for a party, and a week after that i got asked to play another party where they recorded my set and put it on socials
show up to a pottery studio and ask them about their course offerings, go to an open mic and perform something you've been sitting on (or just pull something out of your ass), just step off the ledge and lo and behold, you'll be in the water
Feb 1, 2025
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I grew up being painfully shy with anyone other than my closest friends. I got sick of that. Over the years I’ve grown into a confident person by doing as much scary shit as I can. If there’s something I find particularly terrifying, like accepting an invitation to attend a clowning class, it means to me I have to just fucking do it. I don’t always end up having good experiences following my fear, but more often than not, I do. And you know, worst case scenario I end up with a funny story? Eating shit is good for you. If there’s something that keeps floating into your consciousness, but you’re afraid to poke it, I recommend walking towards it!
Apr 5, 2023
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(when it comes to absolutely anything)
I am moving to a new state in about a month. the way my anxiety is set up, i honestly never thought I’d do something like this alone lol (the idea was always “when i meet someone & get married”), but I had been feeling so stuck for so long where im residing currently. i chose to just take the leap & truly commune with my desire to relocate & have an opportunity to start a new life chapter, despite fear & comfort zones begging me to stay within them, and I’m so happy I did. i am already seeing the amazing opportunities & blessings this transition comes with & I haven’t even actually physically moved yet. I already got a nice place locked in, a new job that I’m actually excited about (with way more pay than I’d ever be offered where I live currently), and a chance to truly start fresh.
This is encouragement to people who are feeling stuck in life or even struggle with anxiety. things may feel and be really crappy right now, but you have the power to make a change & do better for yourself. all it takes is just a leap of faith, & please know that fear is merely what it is ❤️
Apr 23, 2024
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this world is too cold and life is too short to not make sure that the people around you know you love them, that they matter to you. stop this mindset of needing to be nonchalant!!!! if someone leaves you after you tell them you love them, well, they weren’t mean to stick around anyways. tell your friends, your family, your lovers that they are what makes life worth living! that they are sunshine personified to your heart and soul!! the real ones will stay, and they’ll tell you the same. too many people don’t realize how loved they are. 2025 is the year of telling people you love them. flat out.
Feb 2, 2025
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i’m definitely not the first person here to make a rec about this, but my tired brain is truly rejoicing. i have a very hard time completely leaving it since i communicate and share creative work through the app, but i think i’ve decided i will only be on it once a week or when i need/want to post. that’s all. as an already anxious person, seeing the same anxiety-inducing general information (as in something i could easily find on google or a news app) be reposted by 20+ people on their stories has become HELL, especially these last few weeks. not only that, but the constant push of personal opinions about such matters (even if i agree with them) just seems to warp your perception of people. maybe i’m just a wimp, but i don’t think humans were meant to see each other in such a way; we’re not so flashy and impulsive face to face. add the endless scrolling onto that, and it’s downright exhausting and kills productivity. there is so much more dimension and depth to humans and life than what is said or done or seen through this screen. can we please go back to flip phones?
Jan 31, 2025
i’m tired of acting like this isn’t one of the greatest songs of our generation. i swear there is something injected into this. i could be having a horrible day, but if i hear even just the first few seconds of sexyback, my worries are behind me. had to wake up really early for something important? sexyback will hype you up. sexyback heals all.
Feb 6, 2025