didnt realise until recently that people dont take their birthday off but as a attention seeking leo im obsessed with mine and couldnāt imagine doing anything for other people on my special day! even if you like ur work and donāt have big plans for the day just take it as your birthright (š) to do the things you enjoy doing the most, even (or especially) if itās doing nothing and just hanging out in your bed in ur pjs
Oct 21, 2024
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one of the most memorable birthdays i have had is a surprise birthday for my 18th or 21st and i absolutely hated it. i appreciated the effort my family went through to do it but it was my literal nightmare.
my birthday tradition is to spend it doing whatever i want and not feel bad about it. if that means spending an obscene amount of money on shoes i've been lusting after, heck yeah i'll do it. if that means spending the entire day at the cinemas, you bet i'm there. if that means going out with my friends or travelling, yeah i'm doing it. and sometimes i actually just don't feel like doing anything at all and that is sometimes a vibe too.
i think sometimes we are put under pressure to celebrate our birthdays in a certain way with others or throw parties but if that isn't authentic to you or you just don't feel like it, your birthday should be the one day of the year that you can do whatever you want.
Jan 8, 2025
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and it doesnāt just have to be for your birthday, it can be for other peopleās too (if thatās what they want ofc)
i love feeling special on my birthday and love to make people feel special on their birthdays :3
Mar 7, 2024
manifesto forthcoming.
i hear time and time again - āiām not a birthday person.ā as a convert, iām here to challenge that limiting belief.
not unlike new yearās eve, getting your hopes up for a single night is futile. thus, i have the following advice:
-embrace birthday weekĀ
Ā Ā month is a little much, even for me, but allow the week to be birthday-centric. this doesnāt have to be sunday to sunday; it canĀ Ā consist of any of the surrounding days that feel relevant to THE day
-multiple experiences
Ā Ā much like new yearās eve, hanging your hat on one night is doomed. thus, i recommend that you implement ALL (not some) of the following:
INTIMATE DINNER
+with partner, family, a couple of friends. something that feels low key and non stressful. great for a thursday or sunday night. let them know ahead of time (if they need reminding) that you would like a candle of some sort on a house dessert (is this too bossy?? NO! youād do the same for the ones you love. next). (i also get desserts with candles the whole month, unabashedly. and do the same for loved ones.)
SOLO DAY
+plan things for yourself: solo lunch, matinee, massage. buy a fancy latte. take a cab. spare no expense; today you turn off the switch in your head that wonders if itās worth it because it is.
FRIEND DAY
+have people over, meet at a bar, or throw a full on party. this is group time. i honestly recommend doing this one last. youāll likely have enough fun with the other two events that this will feel like a cherry on top. ask your type A friend to help plan, if you need help, and remind them again ab some sort of treat w canes. this doesnāt have to be a blowout! tell everyone to bring whomever, +1s, enemies as itās more-the-merrier vibes.
tl;dr everyone deserves to be celebrated and there are people in your life eager to help you make it happen. ask for what you want. do the same for them down the line ā¤ļø
ps my birthday is 3/17 if you need to start preparing
pps bonus tip - pic is of last yearās birthday outfit. i also like to throw a very easy mini theme to get people thinking ahead of time (i said to wear silk, leather, or mesh. everybody looked hot)
ppps i have so much more to say ab this, lmk if you want moreĀ
Feb 3, 2024
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so much more fun to talk about the ā20-year-oldā or āthe writerā or ā the bri-ish dudeā than having your friends memorize the names of people you might never see again
also very sex&the city coded you know romanticize your life and it also feels like a tv-show
Feb 18, 2024
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especially when living alone cause you
1. always have something to cuddle
2. can crawl under both when you're feelin a lil more cold and cozy
3. can take a nap between the two to not commit to a full blown sleep
4. are instantly ready to host friends who come over!
Mar 22, 2024
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you left a situation with a longing, feeling that you shouldve actually said something or asked them out or smth but now its akward cause you already left and theyāre gonna think its weird and they probably dont even like you as a person and think its akward and š«µāSTOP
it is not
you should go and say it, whats the worst that can happen - they say no - big deal!
whats the best that can happen tho!!!!
life is a romcom i cannot get over this just do these gestures irl its the cutest thing ever
Feb 26, 2024