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Pocari sweat

“Bone broth this” “Liquid IV that” ok well consider: pocari sweat 🤔🧐 the thinking man’s electrolyte beverage. no idea what’s in this shit but tastes great and makes me feel slightly less like shit. Great for if ur like me and find drinking water for survival/regular organ function “boring” and “lacking whimsy”

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Treat yo self top fives

-Day pass at da sauna. This is my big “u deserve a break” ticket item as it’s expensive. but going back and forth from cold plunge < > sauna fixes me for at least a few days. -Pastry, specifically at Librae or Radio while in nyc. Anything flaky, really. I’m a raging slut for anything croissant-like or forged from puff pastry. -Bad tv... speaks for itself… its like a punishment and a reward rolled into one….. -Books and records I guess. Any physical media shopped-for in person since it’s kinda the experience itself that’s the “treat yourself” rather than just the item -Taco Bell. Similar to bad tv, this one is something that feels somewhat self destructive so I only let myself have it if I’m already depressed. Like if I already feel bad how much worse could Taco Bell make it? Oh I’ll shit my pants? Ok well maybe then I’ll have something *real* to worry about instead of existentialism or metacognition about the existentialism or whatever useless grievance has me in the doldrums that day.

@whoisjillblutt

Nov 8, 2024

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Find the intrinsic motivation

Ok essay incoming but I’m the same way and this advice is assuming that you have tried various ways to remind yourself of things (physical notes, reminders, alarms, schedules, to-do lists, whiteboards, etc) and struggled to respond consistently to this kind of stimuli. If you’re not already reminder-maxxing I recommend seeking out the most effective method for you to be unable to ignore the reminders. Might have to change over time as you become desensitized to one kind. Once you’re seeing the reminders daily, the struggle is then acting on them. Seems obvious but sometimes when I’m struggling to complete a task or to do it regularly/form a routine, it helps to zoom in on my reasons for wanting to do it at all. Sure, running every day will make me burn fat and improve my cardiovascular health etc etc etc but sometimes for me with my neurodivergence those long term goals are too lofty and too postponable. Instead it really helps me to think about what kind of immediate reward I will get for completing a task or repeating a task—sometimes the immediate reward is just an immediate reward (“if I go for a 15 min run I’ll feel endorphin release ”) and sometimes it’s the removal of a punishing factor (“if I go for a 15 min run I’ll avoid the shame and anxiety of not doing the thing I said I was going to do today”. there’s a term for this in operant conditioning but I forget what it is). This is why for the really important stuff, I opt for a loud annoying alarm because one can only handle so much snoozing or postponing before it becomes easier to just do the thing. Another piece of advice would be to harness the initial anxiety that a reminder prompts and act on it as quickly as possible, before the anxiety turns from motivating to crippling and before you can think of excuses/justifications for avoiding rather than acting. I hope this helps! I’m far from perfect with this stuff and always having to adapt to my own ability to fall back but this has been the most consistently useful approach for me.

@whoisjillblutt

Nov 8, 2024

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