It’s difficult to really share how you feel and what you need. We can easily slip into some kind of survival mode where we people please, or shut down, or lash out in anger. But what’s beneath that? What underlying need isn‘t being expressed or met?
Of course, being able to speak to our true needs and feelings is difficult, but it can be even harder to recognize what we actually feel or need — especially if those survival modes have been our default for so long.
Work on some somatic practices. Get in touch with your own body and the feelings that arise. Use that as a starting point to recognize what it is you need from yourself, as well as from other people, and then work towards sharing those needs directly to other people.
It’s not easy being vulnerable. In fact, it‘s right there in the word: vulnerable. Yet developing that capacity has been transformative for me over the past 5 or 6 years. Slowly but surely.
Nov 18, 2024
Related Recs
❤️
it’s scary, but it will only foster stronger and deeper relationships with those around you
Jan 10, 2025
🎭
turns out a lot of the time people are nice and understanding in the face of vulnerability
Jan 29, 2024
⭐
the real deep kind that requires you to share your weaknesses, hopes, innards
Feb 3, 2024
Top Recs from @zenlikeme
“We live in a world in which we need to share responsibility. It’s easy to say ‘It’s not my child, not my community, not my world, not my problem.’ Then there are those who see the need and respond. I consider those people my heroes.”
— Fred Rogers
3d ago
I haven’t been on Twitter for years and hardly touch FB, but I had been an active user on Instagram since 2012. I really like taking and sharing photos, and that had always been a fun place to do it.
No more.
With the changes the content moderation changes they’re making, leaving LGBTQ+ folks vulnerable to be targeted; their rolling back of DEI programs; their willing participation in far-right rhetoric and politics; it’s all too much and I’m out.
As if Meta’s platform hadn’t already been increasingly enshittified, this was the final straw to announce how much worse it will get.
And you know what? It feels freeing. Better to leave it behind and find new platforms to connect with people.
Jan 22, 2025
🫙
The guy got my attention with, “Hey, I like your shoes.” Just like that, he had me. We talked about where I bought the shoes and how I used to work in the shoe industry. He used to work in the beer industry but had recently become independently wealthy because of an investment opportunity he started with a few of his friends.
”You get to be your own boss,” he told me. Your boot could be on your own neck. We’re back to the topic of shoes.
He told me it’s a small investment to get started but things are really taking off and I could get in on the ground floor. I could quit my job. Work for myself. Had I ever considered doing something like that?
“No,” I said with a shrug. I walked away with my jar of peanut butter. I can’t remember if it was creamy or crunchy. Probably crunchy.
Nice guy!
Feb 25, 2025