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The only definitive feature of being goth is liking goth music and the only definitive feature of goth music is being music goths like. I went to a goth wedding this past Halloween and they hit us with a tasteful and crowd pleasing range including the Cramps, the Cure, Depeche Mode, and the Monster Mash. Maybe the only other relevant component of being goth is arguing about what music is and isnāt goth. Itās built-in conversation to engage new friends at the gay barās goth night you bravely attend alone.
A couple years into your goth conversion and your clothes have an effortless harmony (they all match), you stand a couple inches taller (big shoes), and you know the delirious joy of a dark smoke filled room packed with people singing and dancing and kissing and doing erotic aerial hoop performances to Boys Donāt Cry at 2 in the morning.
Nov 20, 2024
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there is something about songs belonging to these genres and adjacent that make me feel like a tormented beautiful woman (which I am), but in a way that is artistically sexy
Feb 5, 2025
its a funky subgenre of gothic/dark wave music thatās like if elvira had a baby with a beach boy. recommended bands are 45 grave, vampire beach babes, twin temple and the coffinshakers.
Sep 20, 2024
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This perfect band (aesthetically, sonically, historically) epitomizes what I call Lounge Goth, an underrated fusion. The first time Danny ever talked to me, it was at a party called FIST (Fun Is Still Transgressive) and it was because I was wearing a MLWTTKK shirt. I would say if you know you know, because somehow everyone looks confused when I bring up this group (āKooler Than Jesusā? āA Daisy Chain 4 Satanā? Anyone??), but they were a live act inĀ The CrowĀ and featured on the soundtracks forĀ Cool WorldĀ andĀ ShowgirlsĀ so, I mean, come on.
Sep 22, 2023
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Iām sick of feeling powerless so my new coping strategy is to not let a stupid system bully me into quiet despair. Iām learning how to use my stateās General Assemblyās online bill tracker and Iām subscribing to email updates for the agendas and the public hearings of the legislative committees Iām most concerned about. Iām memorizing all my legislatorsā names and emailing and calling regularly.
Also: Check to see if your stateās Legislative Library has Libguides that explain in laymanās terms what bills are passing in your state and other educational/legislative resources you have freely available to you!!!
Nov 20, 2024
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You will make about 60k if you're lucky unless you become a manager, and you will have 35k of debt or more from grad school (online grad school is cheaper sometimes and no one cares where you get the degree anyways). And sometimes you work for a university (which is essentially a corporation) or the government. But in general everyone in your field will believe in a code of ethics that raises the dignity of humanity above the mire of misinformation and censorship. And you help empower people with the information literacy to move through the world as confident capable individuals/professionals/scholars. Community college libraries are my favorite environment I've worked in so far because the students are cool, driven, and diverse in age and background. Public libraries also do amazing social work in 2025 to provide services to their communities like harm reduction, networks of resources for unhoused people, language teaching, professional development, basic technology training, literally just being a third space, I could go on forever. It definitely is a career that exists because of neoliberalism I'm not going to lie, like American public libraries only exist because robber barons in the 1900s donated a mind boggling amount of grants to towns across the country to build them (not sure about other countries' history with this to be fair). All that being said I decided I wanted to be a librarian when I was 16 and I've been committed to that path for 11 years with no regret.
To add a personal note to this rec and emphasize how meaningful this work really is, I'm going to indulge in a story because I could genuinely cry thinking about all the kind, interesting people I've met who have chosen to be vulnerable with me about their needs and goals. A couple years ago I helped an older man for multiple hours to remember his email login so he could get a copy of his birth certificate from his son-in-law who had emailed a scan of the physical copy which was in another country. The stakes were incredibly high and the task seemed virtually impossible because we didn't even have an email address to start. He was having trouble reaching his son-in-law to ask for help because of the time difference, and he needed the scan ASAP. We were together for so long I learned a lot about him. He talked to me about Islam and Christianity and angels. And then we got it! It's probably one of the defining moments of my career and to me is one of the most impactful things I've ever done.
So there's my job rec lol!
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Iām up in my bank account every week writing every transaction out in a spreadsheet and Iāve never been better with money in my whole life. Also helped me notice asap when a whole mess of fraudulent transactions slipped in while I was occupied moving and otherwise wouldnāt have seen them for a while. Itās absolutely more effective than a Mint budget tracker because you have to confront EVERY purchase and contemplate what actually has value to you.
Jan 6, 2025