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Semi-personal post but…
We sort of knew for a bit that our daughter had some things that weren’t entirely normal. We finally decided to go get some tests ran and it’s turns out that she might have some type of autism or neuro-divergence. This isn’t surprising as I’ve always known that I had some things as a kid that we never got to check out due to our financial situations. After a long zoom call and a few hours of paperwork, our next 2-3 months are filled with doctor appointments and occupational & speech therapy appointments for her.
Now, we have no issue with her being neuro-divergent or even autistic, but if I’m being super honest my initial thought was how this was going to throw off our routine and systems and plans and I had to stop myself and go ??? BRO ??? How wonderful is it that she’s going to get the help I never got!!! How amazing is it that I turned out fine without help; imagine how much better she’s going to be!!! So much support and so much help available today, so different than it was in the early 00’s when I was a kid!!!
It’s a beautiful thing to adjust your perspective and go from what could be a defeating attitude to instead accepting & even celebrating the cards you’ve been dealt and not letting them defeat you. I’m excited for her and our family and I can’t wait to see what this process is like and how much better life is going to be for her. Until then, I’ll listen to her monologue entirely Bluey episodes start-to-finish because she memorizes them all??? Amazing. Wonderful. Love her so much.
Jan 7, 2025
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We had friends over the other day and my friend said she’s paying attention to how I mother because she thinks I’m doing a great job and wants to do the same with her future kids. Everyone agreed 🥲.
We’re the only one of our friends with kids (3 y/o and almost 3 month old) and to be recognized in a role where the labor often goes unnoticed felt so good. I genuinely delight in my children and love being a mother, but it is 24/7 work. I never dreamt of being a parent but with my own healing and growth I found myself wanting to be. I spent a lot of years working on my own self regulation and studying child development (I’m a child therapist) and that has really been paying off in a way I wasn’t expecting at the time.
When someone gives birth, their brain matter changes to aid in caring for their baby. I’ve been in the thick of that for 3 years now and while I can and do think of other things, my entire being is very much entrenched in “mother,” and it can be hard to navigate identity outside of it. so to be seen and honored for that felt really special.
May 29, 2024
this is kind of sappy-ish example i’m thinking of, and idk if many people have noticed her speak abt it (or will care), but i’ve been a fan of chappell roan since like spring 2023 and she’s talked a few times about having bipolar and it just feels really validating and inspiring hearing her talk about it, especially knowing how loved her and her music have become since i first heard of her… i have a hard time talking about my experiences but it’s really nice seeing her talk about it, and some of what she’s said about her experience with bp has been so relatable to me. especially having such a stigmatized and intense condition it just makes me really happy to see her so successful bc i know how difficult (or scary) it can get 💞
“Being bipolar, I was so depressed as a little kid and so angry. You just think you’re such a bad person, and don’t realize that you’re really sick and need help, and our parents don’t know how to deal with it. I think it’s like rewiring my brain to be like, ‘actually, you’re a good person, and you’re creating a safe space and music for people to dance to.’”
Jun 29, 2024
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• I accidentally burn my sandwich almost every time I make it. I now crave it burnt. Maybe it’s not an accident anymore.
• I’ve dancing my whole life. I dance every day. I sometimes dance very weird and wonder if that is going to affect my kids in a weird way down the line.
• I’m an external processor and talk to myself a lot, something I also wonder will mess up my kids.
• I generally do what I want and ask for permission later. I’ve been learning over the past decade with my husband that’s not the best way to be in partnership.
• Jungian therapy saved my life.
• Reconnecting with my spiritually saved my life. I don’t know what it is, but there’s something.
• Nature greatly soothes me and is my greatest teacher.
• I am grounded yet light.
• I remember the day I started self harming. I remember the day I decided to stop.
• It’s easier for me to do something for someone else than for myself, but I’ve gotten better with that.
• I am very loving. I am very forgiving. I am not naive.
• I have fun every day because I am a fun person.
• I love people. There were years I hated people. My husband has shown me how to make friendships everywhere I go.
• I stay anonymous on here because I’m scared a parent I work with will join one day and see some of my no filter suggestions, i.e. “hard nips.”
• I have 5 siblings. We weren’t close growing up. We’re close now even though we live far apart.
• The running joke from my childhood is that they never knew where I was.
• I was very surprised at the desire to get married and have kids. When we bought a house in the suburbs I had a rather large existential crisis that I became boring. Myself and my life are anything but.
• I love being active. I hate living somewhere car centric. I miss riding my bike everywhere.
• I’m sober, but not because I was an addict. I wish there was another term for being sober because you were playing out all your emotional issues with drugs and alcohol and it just isn’t appealing now that you’ve healed.
• I have a raspy voice, but it used to be raspier. I have nodules on my vocal cords. When I was 8 I was given a silver whistle to blow instead of yell. I didn’t use it. It got worse once I started smoking. My voice is much sweeter now.
Feb 28, 2025
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florinegrassenhopper riotgrrrl brendanooooo slowdazzle buck_mcgraw and indianjones — we did it. Not only did we successfully meet for drinks, but we also schemed the hostile takeover of this app from tyler tonight.
In all seriousness — weird that an app I downloaded in April would make genuinely want to drive back into Brooklyn during end of day traffic for a happy hour. Great app filled with great people.
Jul 20, 2024
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I feel like there’s a special connectivity on this app that I haven’t felt in a long time, maybe since early 2010’s tumblr. The fact that you can’t promote yourself like IG is wonderful. The fact that there isn’t mass video content like Tik Tok is great. It’s not this monetized / paid sponsorship app. People are here because they want to be a part of something with nothing to gain besides friendship. Seeing the URL -> IRL meetups warms my heart so much (waiting for an NYC or Brooklyn meetup).
Thanks for your participation on this niche little app. I smile reading all the recs and all the comments and all the asks. Hope we’ll all be here for a long time.
Jun 15, 2024
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I think a life rule for me is to surround myself with people who know more / are smarter / are cooler than me and just absorb their aura by listening / observing them. It’s made me the incredibly smart / cool person you all know and love.
I just never thought I’d feel the same way about URL friends. I’m constantly listening to the songs I see posted here, reading the articles, subbing to newsletters, and googling topics that get tossed onto the feed.
It’s nice to know you can become a more rounded person by just absorbing what your mutuals post on here. I’m going to sit on my couch, have a cocktail and digest my lovely feed. Happy Sunday!
Sep 15, 2024