i’ve grown to really value my alone time, and i was able to reach that point once i started to associate time spent alone with peace, grounding, and recovery. when you’re alone, do things that bring you peace and inner joy so that over time, you begin to look forward to being alone. whether it’s self-care, reading a book, discovering films, or playing your favorite album, etc, learn to enrich yourself during your alone time. essentially, @ the end of the day we have to be able to depend on ourselves for a lot, so using alone time to ground yourself and learn self love is of upmost importance.
Jan 13, 2025
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There are lots of reasons that spending time alone can feel scary, so if this doesn’t feel true or land right just take whatever resonates! discomfort around alone time might indicate avoiding sitting with some uncomfortable/painful feeling or other. practicing mindfulness, even if for a few minutes can be helpful. (Meditating, drawing, paying attention to your senses)
If the sound of that fills u with dread, you could also think of some goals you have for yourself right now and look at what steps you could do to get you closer to accomplishing them! A lot of projects require some amount of solo work and planning!
if I’m stuck feeling frustrated/uncomfortable I turn to solo dance parties, making bad art, and organizing my space as a way to transition into alone time
Remember, ur fun and u get to hang out with urself, how neat is that!
Jan 12, 2025
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First thing is that being alone is not just ok but the best thing ever, you get to discover yourself :
- Hobbies you like reading/ drawing/playing guitar/watching documentaries/hiking/cycling/etc…
- Setting boundaries : when you are alone you will tend to get know yourself more, what do you like in people, what behaviours you don’t like, respecting your own time, etc…
- Self development: switching careers, studying something new, learning a language, etc…
How to be okay with it ? first thing to do is to try it, don’t over think it, just do it, being alone doesn’t mean being lonely at all.
Besides wasting money, think of your energy, being burnt out could be a result of your energy being drained by people, it doesn’t mean that the people you hang out are bad but your inner self might need to just sit in silence, even going to a coffeeshop alone sitting with your headphones on while reading/crafting/sketching or even just watching tiktok could be helpful to reset the energy.
Jan 11, 2025
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I often times rely on people to entertain me, or rely on them to go out and do things, which is rly bad, so I want to start being alone more and be more selfsufficient and rely on myself more. I've slowly already started this and i'm quite happy with how much better i've been :)
Jan 14, 2025
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this is one of my all-time favorite albums and is def a no skip. the way kelela moves through a devastating break up and finds power in her vulnerability and sadness is genius. i will never stop rinsing this idfcccc
Jan 10, 2025
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swapping out the instant gratification of tiktok for the more personal and meditative feel of perfectly imperfect just feels ~ right ~ for 2025.
also i feel like the right people will just *get* this platform, while bigots and basics will steer clear from it. here’s to hoping 🤞🏽
Jan 10, 2025
*the substance* because it was the one 2024 film that crawled under my skin and stayed there
*aftersun* bc of its quiet yet soul crushing portrayal of familial bonds and mental illness, all through the lens of a coming of age story
*jackie brown* bc of the soundtrack and pam grier (duh!)
*black swan* bc a cunty schizophrenic ballerina changed the course my life in a cinema when i was 18
Jan 10, 2025