Controversial opinion I know, but i met my partner on tinder (weâd actually already met 6 months earlier when we played a gig together but he thought I hated him hahaha). The aspiration is that youâre supposed to meet someone irl, but for me and many other people thatâs difficult because of disability. Iâm just not in the world as much as others, and dating apps have allowed me to still have romance and sex etc throughout my disability. I think this has helped me see the benefit in dating apps - putting people across your path that you wouldnt otherwise stumble into, and also to match with people you already kind of know so you now know you fancy each other! My sister met her husband on POF (a site rather than an app, but still), because he wasnât from here so didnât know many people, and theyâd never have met otherwise as heâs an introvert, but a very loving and helpful husband! So yes, if itâs not fun stop using it, if youâre using it to replace other connection stop using it, but if you want to use it as a tool to meet people you wouldnât otherwise, discover new places in the city, or discover that person you bumped into actually fancied you back, I think go for it.
