My partner and I have been in a 2 year relationship and recently I’ve noticed we have been getting a little too comfortable. When we hangout together it ends up with both of us on our phones locked in maybe for a couple hours. As nice as it just being in their presence it’s harder to have that playful banter. We do live in an age now where 5 hours a day on phones is normal. I would love for us to get out of that habit and it can start tomorrow. How do we escape this cycle of grabbing our phones when we feel a little ounce of boredom?
I think flirting can start as early in the morning. Maybe I comment on their morning breath and do a little giggle (but kiss them right away). They could give me a small sweet treat randomly. I would love a little note saying ”I love you” that was put in my pocket. Instead we are to busy on our phones and I am just as guilty as my partner is.
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doing as i say and as i do and how the fuck is my screentime already 2:19 for the day
Oct 3, 2024
i have been on a journey to untangle my tasks from my iPhone.
i'd be out in the world someplace, pull out my phone for something as menial as checking the time, or as well intentioned as capturing the moment in a pic, and immediately get sucked into texts and instagram™️ and all the virtual things happening in this tiny lil demon light box.
the goal: pull my phone out of my bag ONLY for phone things. that's texting, calling, and apps that can't be replaced
the solutions so far:
🕰️ i started with a watch (shoutout Casio) and i wear it every day. once I broke the habit of checking my phone for the time, I felt legitimately freed from something Major
📷 I bought a small digital camera to leave in my bag. the pics look better and I don’t get distracted by the virtual world when I'm trying to capture something in the now
📚 I bought a kindle. It fits in my jacket pocket (literally) and gives me something to do when I'm on the train or waiting for an appointment that isn't scrolling
I just realized so much of the time I spent on my phone was not intentional. It was a thing I was doing in between Other intentional moments. my screen time is still several hours a day (don’t get me wrong) but I think my brain has healed at least 3%.
welcoming other ideas as well💡
Sep 24, 2024
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I realized last month that I had basically developed the habit of ALWAYS looking at my phone. Walking around the house, brushing my teeth, eating, etc. I always had my phone out. I’ve removed a lot of social media apps from my phone, which helped, but the biggest game changer for me is just abandoning my phone upstairs or in another room.
Reading a lot more, staying more focused, playing more fetch with my dog, life is good 😎
Feb 25, 2025
