This has been a really hard Jan and now Feb. It’s super cold, it’s windy, it’s dark out. politics feel really overwhelming and work can just compound and compound. and I’m saying all this because of course you feel this way! admit and allow yourself to be overwhelmed and don’t try to reason it away.
Now that you’ve admitted and accepted that you’re feeling this way and you (hopefully) feel validated, what can you do? What do you need? Do you need friends? Do you need nostalgia? Do you need guilt free veg out for a whole day? Do you need to clean? What will make you feel in control of what you can control?
For me, that’s sometimes scheduled exercise and sometimes it’s watching 6 episodes of law and order svu.
Basically, feel, validate, respond.
Feb 5, 2025
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I know this sounds like faffy lightweight advice, but I’ve learned that the #1 thing you can do to help in stressful times is avoid moralizing and beating yourself up over your perceived failures to Do All The Stuff You’re Supposed To Do.
So, you didn’t fold your laundry? Big deal! Things will slow down at some point and you can get back on track.
Freeing yourself from self-imposed judgments takes a huge mental load off and helps clarify priorities and what you can focus on to get out of the hole.
Apr 25, 2024
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Whenever I feel screen-bad and I know I want to do something else I do like a buffer activity to give myself time to decide what the ultimate goal is. Its helpful for me if it’s something that involves water so my phone can’t come with me and I’m really resetting my day, like doing the dishes or taking a shower. Things I like to do once I’ve amped up to it:
-Tinker, found some free frames on the street and spent the afternoon painting and fixing them with whatever I had around.
-Fancy errands like going to specialty shops (bakery, butcher, wine shop) then dinner becomes the project with whatever you’ve scrounged.
-Be a member of something, it will guilt you into going (pool, museum, local movie theater)
-just do one thing, there’s so much multi tasking asked of us and our attention, just doing one thing feels great sometimes (just eating, just drinking a hot bev, just listening to an album all the way through, just doing the dishes- I think I love doing the dishes?)
I 100% feel where you’re coming from and often struggle in the same way!
Jun 20, 2025
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1. 15 minutes of cleaning, organizing, something task oriented that feels productive and you can SEE. after that timer goes off you’re DONE! Good work.
2. next, it’s outside time. Maybe you walk to get a treat, find a flower, see a nice building, smile at a stranger. This can be a quick trip if you need it to, or find a podcast or album to listen to on a longer walk.
3. Food that makes you feel good nutritionally and food that makes you feel good emotionally. Chocolate cake and an apple. carrots and hummus and twizzlers. Indiana food! Get both.
4. Guilt free SCHEDULED relaxing Of any kind- bed rot, tv time, video games, whatever. its Your job to do it.
This basic formula helps me.
Apr 10, 2024
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Yeah severance is the best tv show on right now and I will watch it and discuss the nuances and the shots and coloring and the writing!! like That’s art, that’s critiquing culture, that’s bringing something new to the table
I will ALSO sit my ass down with wine and popcorn and watch the new love is blind episodes(and love island this summer!!!) because tv can also serve the purpose of shutting my brain O-F-F !!
Feb 15, 2025
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You can always redownload it. If I keep opening Pinterest during work, just delete it for a while!! I can download it again.
Also we all know I mean Twitter and that I can’t go on it bc it will depress me .
Nov 7, 2024
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I like working out and when I leave a workout class and I feel sore and then I take an epsom salt bath and I get in bed and my body just feels like YEAH you USED ME TODAY YAY. I love that.
Feb 4, 2025