This has been a really hard Jan and now Feb. It’s super cold, it’s windy, it’s dark out. politics feel really overwhelming and work can just compound and compound. and I’m saying all this because of course you feel this way! admit and allow yourself to be overwhelmed and don’t try to reason it away.
Now that you’ve admitted and accepted that you’re feeling this way and you (hopefully) feel validated, what can you do? What do you need? Do you need friends? Do you need nostalgia? Do you need guilt free veg out for a whole day? Do you need to clean? What will make you feel in control of what you can control?
For me, that’s sometimes scheduled exercise and sometimes it’s watching 6 episodes of law and order svu.
Basically, feel, validate, respond.
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I know this sounds like faffy lightweight advice, but I’ve learned that the #1 thing you can do to help in stressful times is avoid moralizing and beating yourself up over your perceived failures to Do All The Stuff You’re Supposed To Do.
So, you didn’t fold your laundry? Big deal! Things will slow down at some point and you can get back on track.
Freeing yourself from self-imposed judgments takes a huge mental load off and helps clarify priorities and what you can focus on to get out of the hole.
Apr 25, 2024
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1. 15 minutes of cleaning, organizing, something task oriented that feels productive and you can SEE. after that timer goes off you’re DONE! Good work.
2. next, it’s outside time. Maybe you walk to get a treat, find a flower, see a nice building, smile at a stranger. This can be a quick trip if you need it to, or find a podcast or album to listen to on a longer walk.
3. Food that makes you feel good nutritionally and food that makes you feel good emotionally. Chocolate cake and an apple. carrots and hummus and twizzlers. Indiana food! Get both.
4. Guilt free SCHEDULED relaxing Of any kind- bed rot, tv time, video games, whatever. its Your job to do it.
This basic formula helps me.
Apr 10, 2024
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- ice dives: if you find yourself ruminating or feeling impulsive or anything of that nature, fill a bowl with cold water and ice, take a deep breath, put your face in the water for 30 seconds and repeat until you feel a little calmer. It activates a dive response so all your energy goes into slowing your heart rate
- soothe with smell or taste,
- not for everyone but I love love love love looooove sauna’s
- moving my body in anyway can help - hot yoga, spin, jumping jacks in my living room
- alternative rebellion - get a tattoo! Get a piercing
a piece of advice I find really helpful too is: don’t move if your next move will make the situation worse
Mar 6, 2025
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Yeah severance is the best tv show on right now and I will watch it and discuss the nuances and the shots and coloring and the writing!! like That’s art, that’s critiquing culture, that’s bringing something new to the table
I will ALSO sit my ass down with wine and popcorn and watch the new love is blind episodes(and love island this summer!!!) because tv can also serve the purpose of shutting my brain O-F-F !!
Feb 15, 2025
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You can always redownload it. If I keep opening Pinterest during work, just delete it for a while!! I can download it again.
Also we all know I mean Twitter and that I can’t go on it bc it will depress me .
Nov 7, 2024
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I like working out and when I leave a workout class and I feel sore and then I take an epsom salt bath and I get in bed and my body just feels like YEAH you USED ME TODAY YAY. I love that.
Feb 4, 2025