Literally have a conversation - ask yourself questions about why you can’t do something and answer them.
And know that our brains are terrible at predicting how we will feel after doing something. We’re down and think about going for a walk, which has lifted our spirits before, and our brains tell us it won’t make a difference. Our brains tell us we’ll be happier with some new thing, but when we get the thing we are not happier.
I am like you and have a difficult time choosing to change. My brain fights it, too! It sucks.
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Typically it boils down to forming habits you aspire to have. Which is infinitely more difficult than it sounds unfortunately. Especially if you aren’t already aware of what causes what you don’t like about yourself. That takes therapy and introspection. Just remember that at the end of the day change can’t happen over night, or at least the change that counts. Give yourself grace and time to evolve, because at the end of the day thats what life’s journey is all about.
Jun 7, 2024
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Do you feel like there were missed opportunities? Why?
- How to deal: Internalize that life is a series of random events with outcomes you have minimal control over. You have control over how you cope with those outcomes. You have control over what situations you put yourself in to create better random events.
- Books: The Art of Possibility by Benjamin Zander
You feel overwhelmed or hopeless about current events? You want to go back to “better times.”
- How to deal: There’s no such thing as “better times,” just times where we were less bombarded by an endless news cycle. Sensationalism sells - replace fast bites with documentaries and books.
- Books: Same as Ever by Morgan Housel; Enlightenment Now by Steven Pinker
You feel anxious about your current situation? You want to go back to “better times.”
- How to deal: Stop doomscrolling social media. Stop looking at what others have with envy - they made their own sacrifices that you probably don’t want to make. They’re likely living outside their means. There’s no such thing as “too late,” you’re just as capable now at starting from scratch as you were when you first started the journey you’re currently on.
You feel anxious about an unknown future?
- How to deal: The best way to shape this future and remove the “unknown” is reflecting on what YOUR personal priorities are, having an honest conversation about what goals do or don’t fit with those priorities and value, setting realistic goals, and putting together a plan that breaks your goals into steps that you can form habits around. Progress is better than perfection. Stop and appreciate what you have on the way to achieving your goals.
- Books: Four Thousand Weeks by Oliver Burkeman
Dec 25, 2024
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These past few weeks my mind has felt so all over the place, up and down constantly where I struggle to understand if I’ve made any progress. Consumed by a constant need to keep my mind occupied coupled with a deep sense of loneliness when people don’t respond, I end up scrolling through social media to take up my time only to question if what I feel is justified or real. I try to ask for help but wonder if I should be putting my friends through my constant episodes of anxiety and depression. I’m trying to keep my mind occupied in more conservative ways, maybe this app will help.
So how come I can perfectly understand what and why yet I struggle to grasp and control it.
Dec 28, 2024
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