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How did we stop choosing for ourselves and just accept whatever comes our way?
Past Lives made me think about this.Was it fate, comfort, or just the right and wrong timing? At some point, we stop reaching and just let life happen!!! The movie lingers in that space between longing, acceptance, and what could have been…
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I love my life, so this isn’t in an escapism sort of way. I more so can feel what my life would’ve been like in different scenarios. I can sense what it would’ve been like if I went to vet school in Vermont, or if I had actually left my abusive ex that chilly night in October, or if I had gone to art school in DC, or moved to Portland instead of staying in Chicago and going to therapy. I like to think that all of those versions are happening in different timelines 🧬
Sep 16, 2024
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Same. Ive felt in a loop of sorts. Like how do you let it all go. Like really let it go. Knowing that you had the answers and were denied the right to choose
Dec 25, 2024
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Do you feel like there were missed opportunities? Why?
- How to deal: Internalize that life is a series of random events with outcomes you have minimal control over. You have control over how you cope with those outcomes. You have control over what situations you put yourself in to create better random events.
- Books: The Art of Possibility by Benjamin Zander
You feel overwhelmed or hopeless about current events? You want to go back to “better times.”
- How to deal: There’s no such thing as “better times,” just times where we were less bombarded by an endless news cycle. Sensationalism sells - replace fast bites with documentaries and books.
- Books: Same as Ever by Morgan Housel; Enlightenment Now by Steven Pinker
You feel anxious about your current situation? You want to go back to “better times.”
- How to deal: Stop doomscrolling social media. Stop looking at what others have with envy - they made their own sacrifices that you probably don’t want to make. They’re likely living outside their means. There’s no such thing as “too late,” you’re just as capable now at starting from scratch as you were when you first started the journey you’re currently on.
You feel anxious about an unknown future?
- How to deal: The best way to shape this future and remove the “unknown” is reflecting on what YOUR personal priorities are, having an honest conversation about what goals do or don’t fit with those priorities and value, setting realistic goals, and putting together a plan that breaks your goals into steps that you can form habits around. Progress is better than perfection. Stop and appreciate what you have on the way to achieving your goals.
- Books: Four Thousand Weeks by Oliver Burkeman
Dec 25, 2024
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Feb 14, 2025
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“If you want to know how poor somebody was growing up, ask them how many windows they had. Don’t ask what was in their fridge or in their closet. The number of windows says it all. It says everything. If they had none, or maybe one or two, that’s all you need to know.”
Feb 14, 2025
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“I was always hungry for love. Just once, I wanted to know what it was like to get my fill of it, to be fed so much love I couldn’t take any more. Just once!” Haruki Murakami - Norwegian Wood
Feb 15, 2025