found this about a month late, and i'm not sure what the circumstances of your situation are, but i feel for you and thought i'd comment because i went through a similar situation about a year ago. my best friend of 5 years and i were very codependent, got into a sudden, blowout fight, and did not talk for months! it felt like a romantic breakup and i'd imagine you feel the same!
i'd say the biggest things that helped me deal and heal were 1. time and 2. somehow getting closure. by not communicating with her, i was ruminating on everything that went wrong and all the positive things i missed about our friendship. when we finally caught up, time had made both of us different people, and it was easier to see the reasons why we had stopped talking in the first place and why it might be for the better. enjoying and forming new friendships was also helpful, with people i was compatible with in different ways and fit in this new phase of my life. but i'm wishing you luck, losing a friend makes you feel lonely and rejected and in pain. but that feeling will pass
Feb 17, 2025
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first of all, such a shame this had to happen in your life. i can't even get close to imagining the pain this separation might've brought you.
anyhow, the tips below might be useful for you (as they've been useful for me) :)
1. allow yourself to connect with your body while you're feeling low. the physical sensations that are contiguous to these emotions might help you identify 'em whenever they emerge.
2. allow yourself to live with such feelings/sensations while they last. letting them sit with you is easier said than done, but that's the 1st step to self soothing
3. find ways to soothe yourself while those feelings are sat within you. it's like "ok, i'm feeling (bad feeling), let me concentrate on that, let me breathe, my thoughts are prolly gonna be contaminated by it, hence why i shall not take said thoughts into account" and many other strategies that only you will be able to pull off, as you know yourself better than anyone.
4. always remind yourself that feelings, no matter how intense they might be... how ever engulfing, suffocating, enveloping they might be... are deciduous.
5. the role your friend played in your life might not be occupied as of now, and it might not be ever again... but trust the proccess. you'll grow around that shard of your life just fine.
i'll sincerely wish for your wellbeing.
:)
Jan 25, 2025
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As someone who is maybe 2ish connections removed from the situation Im assuming you may be referring to… I am so deeply sorry 💔 hope you know that there are many strangers out there who are rooting for you and think you deserve to be happy and treated well, despite being strangers …
As someone who has been through a lot of heartbreak, the advice already given in previous comments is really great . I think in my experience, having 1 or 2 friends that you know really love you and get you, that you can spend time with even if you are really sad and not contributing much, was helpful. If you feel the need to talk about your feelings try to keep it to those people, or a journal. Once you start to feel a little better going out with more people and being more social can really help remind you of what is valuable about YOU.. what YOU enjoy and bring to the world..
Above all it helped me to remind myself that life is going to go on. You will move on, no matter how long it might take. It might feel like the worst thing in the world but i promise you will get through it. It’s just a matter of time :) be kind to yourself while time passes. I cant emphasize enough how deeply I have felt so heartbroken I thought I couldnt go on. Multiple times. Yet here I am.. and you will be okay too ❤️
Mar 3, 2024
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i don't know what happened, but i'm sorry. i think you cope by grieving and mourning. that's what i did. i journaled and cried and howled and screamed and rolled on the floor. i did this for an entire year. and it still wasn't enough. so i reached out to them like 4 days ago lol and it gave me the closure i so desperately needed. please please please remember to be kind to yourself and take care of yourself and show up for yourself even when it's the hardest thing to do. spend time with loved ones. do the things that you love. rediscover your passions. focus on you. treat yourself like the absolute g you are. remember who you are outside of this. it's so easy to lose yourself in this process of grieving. i believe in you. you can get through this <3
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