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As someone who is maybe 2ish connections removed from the situation Im assuming you may be referring to… I am so deeply sorry 💔 hope you know that there are many strangers out there who are rooting for you and think you deserve to be happy and treated well, despite being strangers …
As someone who has been through a lot of heartbreak, the advice already given in previous comments is really great . I think in my experience, having 1 or 2 friends that you know really love you and get you, that you can spend time with even if you are really sad and not contributing much, was helpful. If you feel the need to talk about your feelings try to keep it to those people, or a journal. Once you start to feel a little better going out with more people and being more social can really help remind you of what is valuable about YOU.. what YOU enjoy and bring to the world..
Above all it helped me to remind myself that life is going to go on. You will move on, no matter how long it might take. It might feel like the worst thing in the world but i promise you will get through it. It’s just a matter of time :) be kind to yourself while time passes. I cant emphasize enough how deeply I have felt so heartbroken I thought I couldnt go on. Multiple times. Yet here I am.. and you will be okay too ❤️
Mar 3, 2024
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I like to remember that time is on your side, it will get easier as time goes by just for nature of it. So focusing on going through the day-to-day the best you can while being kind to yourself and letting the days past is what helped me.
It’s not easy, you have to go through the grief to come up on the other side.
But stick with the things that make your present more bearable and you WILL come up on the other side.
For me it was doing things for myself: listening to music, visiting close friends, cooking for myself, going on walks on nature, spending time alone and bored and finding new things I liked and enjoying my own company was life changing.
The loneliness is rough but it can be a great teacher (at least I like to think something had to come out of all that pain).
I guess it really depends on the break up the narratives you are telling yourself right now, but if you can be mindful about them, observe them, and let go of trying to understand and control everything they get less cruel. Right now you just need to survive and receive some kindness, later on you can build the story around it (Without the fog of the pain around it).
And for the love of god cut contact with them, their family and friends, at least for a while. rebuild yourself outside their zone of influence. Show vulnerability if you can, it can bring great support and lending ears, BE KIND TO YOURSELF (although have in mind sometimes over indulgence is not kind).
You will get through it, time is on your side.
Apr 18, 2024
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i think what helps/is “best” depends on the breakup and the timeline.
if it’s like, three months and your main approach is still distraction that may make it harder in the long run. but in the first few weeks i think it’s okay to just distract yourself! i also think what is helpful is a mix of distractions. so maybe at the worst moments watch a sitcom, but at other times it may be helpful to read or watch media about heartbreak.
it’s nice to feel seen / see how others get thru it, even fictionally. i love to watch fleabag. 10 love poems and a song of despair and crush are two beautiful poetry collections.
a small ”girls”/friends night at home can be nice because it will be both fun and you’ll get an opportunity to talk things through with friends. + therapy is always another talking option, both in the cases of if the relationship wasn’t the best or if you’re just having a really hard time (which is valid!)
one of my heartbreaks was sorta a similar situation to yours (she got with the person she told me not to worry about right after!) so i want to say 1) i know the feeling sucks and i’m so sorry! and 2) it’s totally possible to get through this moment, and you will ❤️🩹
i also wrote some advice on working thru heartbreak a while back! 🩹 space, music, journaling, hobbies https://www.pi.fyi/rec/clwha3jpj02x510qsyswdwxjg
Aug 8, 2024
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Your first heartbreak is always so tough, but you’ll get through it and be better for it!! They say that however long you were with someone, it takes that same length of time to get over them, so don’t get discouraged if the healing process feels slow! Put all the energy that you gave to them back into yourself - take yourself on dates, throw yourself into your hobbies, enjoy being in your own company. It takes time, but you’ll get through this 💖
Jun 17, 2024
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Couple on the w train fully dressed in visual kei style you looked sick
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Getting really into them rn in a way that is so confusing to me.. loving and wearing gourmand perfumes just goes against everything I thought i knew about myself which is kind of beautiful actually. We can continue to surprise ourselves every day :)
I think vanille 44 may have been the gateway drug😲 I’ve been loving kyse perfumes frangipane al pistacchio. I must say that mixing is controversial but i put it on with some Gaiac 10 this morning and liked it, feel like the nuttiness goes well with the gaiac and the gaiac tones down how sweet the frangipane becomes especially after an hour or so.
I think I like trying this perfume genre that seems to be looked down upon by “serious“ people. Also the kyse bottle labels are so bad they‘re good... I’m kind of obsessed lol
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From a refrigerated water filter for me. so its really cold #gulpnation sorry!
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