True love is an ideal, and historically I don't know if most people experienced it- people have always married for money, had arranged marriages, been subject to immense power differences in their relationships that forced them to behave in certain ways. I do see this sentiment frequently and I think it reflects
1. the difficulty of romantic relationships in general, being something that you have to work at and compromise in every day, and
2. a general isolation that prevents people from falling in love organically and the perception of there "always being a better option" because of dating apps and social media feeding you the 1% of hot people all the time and movies and music and tv presenting sensationalized dream love stories to aspire to.
So maybe romance is just as hard to find as it has ever been, just in new ways. People have always yearned, so what do i know
Feb 18, 2025
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The internet doesnât accurately represent any human emotion I donât know why love and romance get so much criticism for that. You just need to walk outside in any direction for two minutes and youâll find evidence of true love.
I think the romantic revolution born from the frustration and suppression of romantic expression during the peak of the Industrial Revolution is a little overdue its realisation again as we peak in the digital revolution but I think itâs coming, and I mean the romantic revolution on its full scale and everything it gave to society, and not just lovers and art. Itâs like talking about God (romance) and somebody brings up Jesus (hinge) like thatâs not the whole body of it or even close.
Anyway it actually canât die because itâs innate and itâs what we come from.
Feb 20, 2025
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iâm definitely a hopeless romantic but i think i have a good sense of realistic expectations in (romantic) love. so obviously i hope i find someone thatâs like the loml but i understand how rare that is!
and i find it much more important to spend time appreciating love for yourself and others and nature and so on. all loves are important and abundant when you embrace them! maybe related â i know itâs the generational norm but dating apps feel way too unnatural to me.
i also think when we talk about âlove of your lifeâ itâs always finite; i believe itâs more normal/realistic to have someone be the love of your life at a specific point in your life, and later you maybe part ways when you realize your lives and selves have separately evolved from that time.
but i know so many people who define their lives/future over being in their specific relationship (regardless if itâs monogamous or not!) and i have found that is unhealthy and unsustainable. i think you can get so deep into a relationship that you drown in it!
May 14, 2024
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romantic gestures (grand or small, whatever youâre into) balanced with honesty, understanding, acceptance, patience, communication and trust. compromise is important too but within reason! you shouldnât compromise to the point where you lose yourself or feel like youâre settling for the sake of love and the person you love shouldnât want that either. also, a lot of people want to be in a relationship for the sake of company and companionship and fail to see the other as their own person. so have standards, even if that means you wonât be in a relationship right away. love means being able to be an individual and appreciated as such. love should not be your identity, your identity should be present in how you love. i donât know i have a very practical but fantastical approachâŚmaybe itâs my taurus venus. personally i fancy a little fun and humor as well. if i canât be silly with my lover i donât want it.
May 14, 2024
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Will not be elaborating on this except to say when Iâm at my parents house I become someone else, and u feel like a wild animal and have arguably a lot more balance as you ascend
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Exactly what it sounds like. Sometimes you have a large and juicy citrus fruit that you want to peel and consume like a starved chimp but without the stickiness. So do this in a slightly cold shower. So refreshing and wild
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I am rediscovering my love for sharing and writing. It's so rare to find an outlet where sincerely and intelligently offering your ideas is encouraged and made possible by a vibrant community. The discourse and recommendations on here are waking up my brain that has been rotting on twitter/insta/tiktok for years. I find myself writing essays in the rec box and deleting them because they aren't true recs and the sanctity of the site must be preserved. Anyway thank u legends.
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