Congratulations and kudos- what a huge step on all levels. I’m excited for you!
When I became sober (at 22), I thought about the things I loved about drinking/various drugs and tried to just be that way. So, if at its best drinking made you feel carefree, how can you mimic that just being yourself without the use of alcohol? If weed makes you feel calm and in the moment, what do you need to do to feel that way without it? It was a fun challenge and now over a decade into it, those parts are just integrated into me.
It’s also good to explore what purpose drinking etc. served for you. It’s good to get to the root of the issue. I found for me I was playing out a ton of emotional issues with it. Each thing was either to make me feel good, or to hurt myself. It was very clear once I took a break and looked closely. Personally, I wasn’t planning on being sober. Once I stopped and saw it all clearly I just never wanted to again.
Have something non alcoholic to have on you where there’s alcohol. Remind yourself of the reason you’re staying sober. I generally avoided anywhere with alcohol for a while, but it seems that might not be something you can do. If you need to leave, LEAVE. Even if to just get some fresh air and reground yourself.
It’s a journey but sober life can be lots of fun! Best of luck!!!
Feb 19, 2025
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Seems unreal!To be honest, I feel thankful! WTF I DID IT! I will say the hardest thing was learning to deal/welcome all the suppressed emotions. Let me tell you…Girl!!! They hit HARD! Again, this is not to say you should go sober. I believe everyone has their own relationship with drugs/alcohol. Some healthy and some not so much. You choose what works for your body. For me drinking/drugs were “coping vices” I would drawn myself to not feel. So much so that I wanted to be NUMB.
It got dark for a period. Cold. I needed something harder. That’s when I decided to go cold turkey. Now 1 year later! ✨
Jun 6, 2024
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i have finally come to my conclusion that i am an addict. the first step is admitting that, now what?
I’m attending classes and trying to remember who I was before my spiral into addiction. It’s hard hurting the people around you and losing yourself, never would i think i would be an addict but that’s how addiction works im figuring out. I’m going to use this to show what i’ve been loving as a sober 20 something in a scene where partying is normalized, idk I will forever be a party girl but in a different sense. I love life and I can’t wait to experience it again how I used to.
Feb 18, 2025
When you get sober you start noticing things. It’s not necessarily good or bad it’s just an observation. I’m 10 months clean and sober this month, and it’s been a long and arduous process, but maybe you just had a few too many over the holidays and need a break. Dry January is never a bad thing. Put down the ketamine and the beer and just have a nice wholesome normal interaction for once!! You might wind up actually enjoying yourself. They can pry cigarettes from my cold dead hands though...
Jan 5, 2024
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This has become the norm and every day I grow more disturbed. I understand if somebody is behaving in a harmful way, that is good to document and put out there. But as a whole, it seems, we have become so comfortable with recording people just living their lives. I saw a video of a guy working and the caption of the video was that he was so hot, we needed to find him!!! Why are you providing the Internet with his face and location instead of just going up to talk to him? I saw another of two people on the subway, seemingly a couple, having a very emotional moment. How would you feel if you open up an app and saw a video like that of yourself? I don’t like this level of sibling society surveillance. Why are you videoing an elderly person with sad music dubbed over it to gain likes? It is WEIRD. Don’t even get me started on videos of children. It is WEIRD to use a stranger without their consent to get some kind of fake validation. Get a life.
I don’t mean to come on here and share something so negative, I just don’t have anywhere else to put it and it’s gnawing at me.
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It’s to keep us humble otherwise we’d be TOO hot/sexy/cool
Jul 3, 2024