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Not recording strangers in public and posting it on the internet

This has become the norm and every day I grow more disturbed. I understand if somebody is behaving in a harmful way, that is good to document and put out there. But as a whole, it seems, we have become so comfortable with recording people just living their lives. I saw a video of a guy working and the caption of the video was that he was so hot, we needed to find him!!! Why are you providing the Internet with his face and location instead of just going up to talk to him? I saw another of two people on the subway, seemingly a couple, having a very emotional moment. How would you feel if you open up an app and saw a video like that of yourself? I don’t like this level of sibling society surveillance. Why are you videoing an elderly person with sad music dubbed over it to gain likes? It is WEIRD. Don’t even get me started on videos of children. It is WEIRD to use a stranger without their consent to get some kind of fake validation. Get a life. I don’t mean to come on here and share something so negative, I just don’t have anywhere else to put it and it’s gnawing at me.

@mossyelfie

Oct 7, 2024

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@riv3r

It's honestly disturbing that people do this. The only time you should be filming is when you're doing citizen journalism and pointing at the pigs 🚨 either that or when it's a serious crime that's committed

Oct 8, 2024

@mattshawsome

Really valuable conversation and concerns surfaced on this thread: thank you! -- Okay, I posted a photo of a stranger on PI.FYI a couple hours ago. What are anyone's thoughts on the appropriateness of that post? ✈️ eating a plum in the cockpit

Oct 7, 2024

@mossyelfie

mattshawsome you can’t see his face and you don’t give any identifying information so I don’t see it as being too bad. I also don’t think you need the picture to tell the sweet story you shared!

Oct 7, 2024

@mattshawsome

mossyelfie thanks for the feedback! edit: blurred pilot's face and updated the image it was a sweet story! (pun)

Oct 8, 2024

@passiflora

Finally someone said it

Oct 7, 2024

@lmaolson

I saw this happen on one of those neighborhood watch apps where some teenagers were smoking in a park and rather than go up to the teens and politely ask them to stop, some adults took pictures of them so you could clearly see their faces and posted it on the app as if these kids were like neighborhood menaces that were going to terrorize everyone

Oct 7, 2024

@gooeyjam

It’s so so normalized and should be cause for public shaming. i used to work at a cafe that was very nicely decorated and the amount of times that people took photos/videos of us working without our consent was insane!! What about the safety of the workers? Or just their personal preference???

Oct 7, 2024

@vampire

no you’re right it’s so bizarre and a huge invasion of privacy imo 😭 some people are so inconsiderate sometimes, i’m a super private introverted person and the idea of someone recording me and posting it on social media without my consent would probably trigger an anxiety attack or something

Oct 7, 2024

@suplauryn

I'm pretty sure one of my students took a photo of me while I was lecturing today I cannot second this more omfg it is so disturbing to think there could be "content" of me that I had no knowledge of.

Oct 7, 2024

@mossyelfie

suplauryn 😨 and that’s so bizarre they felt comfortable doing that!!!

Oct 7, 2024

@turkey

suplauryn horrific. when i used to teach some students took a picture of another teacher and made a fake grindr profile for him??

Oct 7, 2024

@bumbythefool

suplauryn literally my nightmare. I saw a guy in high school do this to a substitute teacher people called Hot Sub and realized whether you look good or goof you're fucked if they decide to share an image of you for whatever reason

Oct 7, 2024

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