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Dating apps are fine but hinge is cursed

Idk unfortunately this is the world dating apps can be good bad or meh really it’s just such a mixed bag and access to people you may never organically interact with otherwise which I find actually nice But hinge is specifically cursed like the required and very limited prompts are horrible every added feature is worst then the last and I truly think the “most compatible” suggestion it gives you is meant to make you reevaluate Every decision that has lead you to that moment

@pissbowling

Jul 20, 2024

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idk man it’s tough out there

I linked a rec I made over a year ago about deleting hinge and dating the old fashioned way. have I been on a single date since then? nope. do I stand by what I said? absolutely. I’m still convinced that the apps aren’t perfect, and while they might work for some people they’re kind of a necessary evil at best. without them, it’s hard to put yourself in contexts where meeting someone organically is possible. and even then, within those contexts the meeting has to be just that: organic. it takes time. it takes being in places/situations regularly where you think you’ll meet people who share your interests/values. it also takes a bit of effort to initiate those interactions, and also fate that someone might initiate something with you. the apps are a convenient, quick fix, instant gratification solution to the issue in that they will get you dates, but in exchange for quantity you may sacrifice on quality. things of quality have no fear of time, though. waiting to encounter someone who is a good fit and in a good phase of life to be what you need and vice versa is going to take time. and if you work a 9-5 like I do, you’re going to have to invest in putting yourself in situations to meet people in your free time. or just do what I do and develop crushes on your superiors in the workplace that are doomed to never be realized because of HR protocol. i’d advise against the latter, though.

@royallmonarch

2d ago

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leave the dating apps behind

Like someone else said, one of the best, most freeing things is to leave the dating apps behind especially if you struggle with self esteem. I know people who have found amazing relationships from dating apps, but as a whole I believe they have done a great job at commoditizing romance and making interactions transactional; they want you to pay more money to keep swiping until your thumbs hurt. Combine that with the fact that all the major dating apps are owned by either Match Group or Bumble, data privacy concerns, and you now have an industry that treats dating like a mobile gacha game. Dating felt fun and natural for me the minute I left the apps behind. This is just my 2 cents, so take it with a grain of salt. Maybe they work for you, if so, more power to you!

@wakeuplmd

Jan 21, 2025

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Being hugged

Not gonna lie, it’s been awhile since I’ve had a nice warm hug. like a real meaningful one ya know? The type you don’t want to let go it’s so comforting. Anyways, thanks Instagram reel for reminding me I’m using you to ignore deep unwanted feelings.

@philishere

2d ago

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art of conversation

I wish I could speak every language to converse with everyone around the world! There’s something tantalizing about having this ability. Perhaps because deep conversations are a doorway into someone‘s upbringing and people’s cultures, and there is so much joy in hearing someone‘s story. In another lifetime, surely I was a polyglot enjoying company from people all around the world!

@philishere

Feb 5, 2025

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FOOD

Why is making a side dish or some dinner for people so enjoyable??? I put on some good tunes and cooking is so FUN. Highly advise making a dish for your friends next gathering, it’s easier than you think!

@philishere

Feb 10, 2025

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