I was very young when my mum was in end of life care so my frame of reference is processed through childhood eyes, but one thing I wish had been done differently was that I wish I’d had more time to wallow and process. just going to school when my mum was at home dying was very weird, and meant it took longer for me to process that was was going on was a big deal that I was allowed (and supposed) to feel sad about it. So my advice would to be give yourself TIME. Going about your daily life, studies, work etc as if everything is normal feels so strange. Obviously we need some normality so as not to crumble, but allow yourself the time for it to not be normal. Take time off! If it’s possible for you, take more time off than you think is even necessary. keep doing things you enjoy, but don’t push to keep on as normal. If you’re in a situation where it would be frowned upon for you to cry, that is not a situation for you to be in right now. (most of the time just knowing you could safely cry leaves space for you to be able to laugh). Also in terms of making it easier on your mum and everyone, in my experience when people come to the end of their lives they need honesty over denial. obviously this depends on the characters of the people involved, but I would say lean into the weirdness of it, acknowledge how scary and awful it is, don’t pretend it’s fine. let your brave mask fall, it’s in those moments you find real connection.