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fuck all of this hiding and acting like we don't want anything serious. HEAUX I WANT YOU TO BE MINE AND ONLY MINE AND I WANT TO DATE AND ONLY DATE YOU AND I WANT TO EXPERIENCE A DEEP LOVING RELATIONSHIP BECAUSE IM A HUMAN AND ITS NATURAL TO CATCH FEELINGS WITH SOMEONE YOURE SEEING WHY ARE PEOPLE SHOCKED WHEN YOUVE BEEN "DATING" FOR A WHILE AND THEN U WANNA ACTUALLY DATE THEM??? WHY ARE WE PUNISHING VULNERABILITY????? WTF IS GOING ON WITH ALL OF THIS NOTHING SERIOUS BULLSHIT
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My friend today asked me an amazing question. He said, âDo you think the avoidance thing is specific to our generation or LA specific? Like is someone in Arkansas thinking about anxiety?â
Obviously yes someone in Arkansas is thinking of anxiety haha but it made me really think. Our generation is HORRIBLE (me included) at facing shit and taking accountability. Itâs all masked underneath this âtherapy talkâ shit.
Hear me out. Letâs say you have a friend and youâre feeling conflict/tension with them. After a few weeks of them being mean, you confront them about it. Theyâre passive and not addressing their actions. We would INSTANTLY write them off as âAVOIDANTâ versus âA friend whoâs hurting me by being shitty even if they donât intend to.â
And yes, that friend is being âavoidantâ. But, thatâs a simple write off for behavior. Behavior has been so quickly written off to fit into this Therapy Talk.
Hereâs another example: A girl who really likes someone is attaching to them quickly because sheâs excited to get to know them and is having so much fun, sheâs moving faster than usually and trying to rush commitment. Society would consider her âAnxiously attachedâ versus âThis girl is really into this person and itâs shifting her choices and actions.â
I think what iâm getting at is, it seems dismissive and avoidant to just simplify these big feelings and actions into these terms when in reality, yes the terms are true. But, we should probably be making space to really talk and express in full detail a persons actions including our own, and get to the bottom of it. The categories can be apart of the larger narrative, but they arent the full reasoning.
I hope this made sense lol
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