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what are your “dreams”, really?

This might not necessarily apply to your situation, but I figured I’d share my thoughts anyway. Often I think we buy into narratives we impose on ourselves about what will make us truly happy or content. People spend a lot of their lives chasing some lofty goal, often at great personal cost, both mental and physical. And once they get there, the result might not even be that great. There might be some complications that were never considered. Or, the day-to-day reality of the dream made manifest isn’t as glamourous or fulfilling as we thought it would be. I’m not saying you need to disregard your aspirations. But I think it’s good to have an open mind about potential futures, even beyond what you see as being immediately fulfilling, or the “truest” version of yourself. I know it’s hard in our world to conceive of our self-worth outside of what we spend a great deal of our time doing. At the same time, I think it’s possible to strike a balance between what we think we want and what ends up making us happy. Hope that makes sense.

@silex

Nov 7, 2024

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depends on how you define "success"

I think we have a cultural tendency to think of success along the lines of achievement and status. we look for the indicators of success as being flashy titles, cushy salaries, awards and accolades, material luxuries, and social status (we also have a tendency to tie success to one's career, which doesn't need to be the case). These things are superficial indicators of privilege and power, however, and may not actually be linked to a successful life. I'm more of the mindset that to be successful is to do with your life that which you feel you were meant to do, a sense of having achieved with your efforts the thing which you felt was most important for you to achieve. This can look a lot of ways, but broadly I would say that it looks like integrating your passions, competencies, capabilities, and broader lifestyle in a way that supports the pursuit of your goals—whether your goals are professional, personal, artistic, spiritual, whatever. And if you've really done this, positioned yourself such that you wake up each morning with a purpose or a sense of being on the path towards purpose, then getting there will feel as good as you hoped. Now if you get to this point which you envisioned would be the landmark of having reached success and it doesn't feel like you're dedicating your efforts meaningfully towards something which brings you flourishing, then maybe this isn't your success. Does that mean you've failed? Not necessarily, it just means you're still on the path to finding your success, and that journey and that struggle can be rewarding in and of themselves. Don't pin your success to looking a certain way, don't limit yourself to only having one modality for achieving success, and don't be afraid to move your target if it's not serving you. Get to that point of being able to pour your whole self into something and you're gonna feel great.

@royallmonarch

Jan 14, 2025

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Having a little existential crisis about a win-win situation

Sometimes everything is good, but then an idea/opportunity comes along that has the potential to make things EVEN BETTER! But also what if it doesn’t? Like maybe everything’s fine and nothing needs to change. Which one is it!?! Gah

@maxandthebuckners

Feb 3, 2024

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rewatching fleabag

I sometimes worry that I wouldn’t be such a feminist if I had bigger tits.

@haileyd4wn

Mar 8, 2025

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meditating at the toaster

My toaster is having a bad week so she doesn’t have the energy to hold the lever down anymore. Which means I have to stand there pressing it down for three minutes making sure my toast doesn’t burn. I used to take that time for granted, now it’s being robbed of me by my broken toaster. Trying to give her grace.

@haileyd4wn

Feb 26, 2025

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oh boy I can’t wait

I am thinking about waking up in the morning.

@haileyd4wn

Mar 15, 2025

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