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Obviously binaries aren’t perfect; they are cool people who are old, and cool people who are younger. They are older cornballs and younger cornballs. But, in my experience, the majority of people in my life who are the coolest are older people. Everyone in this generation is so lame, and always focused on the dumbest things: like who did what to whom, who we can’t like anymore because they did something they deemed as bad, Twitter, and fake community. Shed that. Always have big steppers around you: men who take care of themselves, men who have been through battles in life, men who understand sacrifice but also understand individualism. (Women too, obviously). Learn from those people. Cultivate those relationships. I feel richer whenever I hang out with a cool ass older person who knows what the fuck they are talking about. And they recognize that I am a cool young person trying to do his thing. They will take care of you. As someone who likes people, I can lose sight of who is actually cool and wants you to succeed, and who wants you to be low like them. But, when you hang with cool older people, that is never a factor. Cool people are trying to make a way for themselves without wishing and hoping. They’re just getting after it and taking advantage of the opportunities they have.
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Honestly, so much more of a vibe to hang with than anyone remotely close to my age. They have the best advice, the best stories, they don’t gatekeep, they aren’t posers or social climbers and have zero ulterior motives to get into your pants.
Feb 2, 2024
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I guess not having a lot of family or guardianship, I’ve found a lot of wisdom and guidance in friendships from different age groups. People who have nurtured my empathy, broadened my understanding, and provided access to unique experiences. Even outside of deep friendships, just interacting more with different generations in a community is important to me.
Jun 15, 2023
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There’s a weird phenomenon in New York where you keep all your contacts from everyone else who might take something away from you - it’s mostly oriented around career. BUT! Guess what? Nothing matters. Who cares? People are going to work with who they want to work with, you might as well put in a good word, I believe karma is a real thing. I love talking about my friends' accolades to people they don’t know, you never know what could come of it. Surround yourself with unselfish, soft human people, and the rest is history.
Apr 21, 2023
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I'm often accused of being an "old soul", a categorization I vehemently dislike because it pretends as if my taste is because of nostalgia, as opposed to what is actually cool and compelling. (If something cool comes out now, I enjoy it, but we're in a down period when it comes to culture). But, something old about me, is that I do not care at all about TikTok ending, if does happen. If Elon takes it over from the Chinese, you might as well leave anyway, but I'm just worried at why this is a huge deal for people. It's just an app. Another one will be made. TikTok is not culture, it directly flattens culture into these ten second clips that take music, movies --- things that you need to process --- into something that is now consumed by everyone at a rapid pace, not allowing for the nuances, the style, the aesthetics to sit with us.
I have never watched something on TikTok and thought that this is something in that pushing American culture to deeper heights. I am sorry. Now I am sure they're good stuff on the app, but it's not really a necessity. Whenever I hear the words "it's blowing up on TikTok", my mind immediately growls.
I understood why X becoming overrun with Elon bots and right wingers is a big deal; X actually created things, made careers, made American life, and American events available to be seen by everyone. However, TikTok is a corrupt fantasy, chopping at the wires that make physical connection important.
Read a book! Go to the movies! Go to the restaurant of a cuisine that is unheralded, go to a baseball game. Who cares about TikTok?
Jan 14, 2025
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There's something quite startling about Martin Scorsese's 1980's period compared to the rest of his decades as one of America's greatest filmmakers. In the 80's, he was weird, strange, and making weirdly manic films that feel more New York than even some of his movies about the mob. They're movies about characters who aren't glamarous people that they want to be, but rather, are losers who can't seem to correctly fucntion in normal society. They're non-violent sociopaths. I saw The King of Comedy at Metrograph recently, and it's exhilarating, hilarious, manic, and scary. With Jerry Lewis, Bobby De Niro and Sandra Bernhard, Scorsese was able to create a world where incels who are bad at comedy are wishing for fame. Sound familiar?
This is a great movie. In 1983, it was a box office flop. But in 2025, it is magical in how it's telling the future. A future of scam artists who don't want to work to get there, and don't want to sit in their mediocrity: they want to steal to get their fifteen seconds. Go watch this masterpiece.
Jan 28, 2025
It's a perfect movie. It's almost too perfect. The fashion, the look on Cate's face when Theresa (Rooney Mara) is walking to her at the end, the line reading of "ask me things, please"; the fact that men are the joke throughout the movie.
It makes me wonder about representation and the limits of it because of how womanly and queer this movie is, despite the fact that it never feels like a movie made for women. It's just a great movie.
Feb 13, 2025