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cookie mueller

Super obsessed with her rn. Her book “Walking through clear water in a pool painted black” may have been all over Pinterest last year but it’s very touching

@balthazar

Apr 16, 2024

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thesweetfeminist

lovely feminist baker who has the sweetest dog and just became a mom :) i‘m increasingly against following people i don’t know on instagram but i love her posts, she speaks really earnestly and compassionately about abortion, and her recipes are delightful even just to look at pictures of. i think she’s been baking less since she had a kid but she still shares recipes frequently (cakes, cookies, quick breads and more!) additional sub-recs here: her substack, a little something sweet (she writes about so many things) her cookbook, baking by feel (recipes divided by feelings!!! if baking is a coping mechanism for you then i especially rec this)

@marxinista

Nov 21, 2024

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cool aunt

my sister just had a baby and i am considering the type of aunt?/guncle ? (the designation becomes tricky w gender lol) i may be. but ultimately the archetype of “cool aunt”—mysterious, distant-yet-warm, uninvolved in family dramas, arrives at family gatherings wearing strange, somehow stylish clothes, bearing copious gifts and floating on an air of urban life—resonates most soundly with me this has also led me to reflect on how my mom’s sister played such a key role in my  youth by revealing to me a foundational truth that this is not all that there is! ‘twas a very hopeful message to me, a miserable child/teen unsuited to christian suburban life, forced to procure my wardrobe primarily from the women’s section at the department store because that is what my mother deemed reasonable (and kohl’s cash)  some of the notable moments my aunt bestowed upon my adolescence include: • taking me to see moonrise kingdom at the indie art deco theater in a nearby mountain town  • driving me to philly for shows at tla even though she had no idea who the artists were and would stand in the back; also paying for all my meals and whims on our south street jaunts • curating a collection of signed books from author visits at her local library, which she’d always drop off nonchalantly as gifts (charles santore picture books, lemony snicket !)  • signing me up for 5ks and carting me along to her races • explaining to me what a “lesbian” is and taking me to meet said lesbians in a dimly lit new york restaurant where i tried alligator sausage and felt so urbane  • general trips to ny for broadway shows and museums   • introducing me to rummikub • letting me roam free at community music festivals from late afternoon til dusk, where i’d encounter children from different counties, get in harmless trouble and infuse my life with the intrigue of those unknown to me but in those brief moments 

@ryn

Sep 25, 2024

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asking people how much money they make

In an appropriate context of course, but the taboo around salaries was born from concealing the fact that women and bipoc made less. Let's be transparent! It's important to benchmark our salaries so that we can make sure we are all getting paid what we deserve!!

@user18

Feb 14, 2024

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starting every tiktok Comment with “professional here,”

Who’s to say, maybe I am a professional..? Not trying to give bad/dangerous input, just enjoying the freedom of lying online.

@user18

Feb 24, 2024

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facetiming my siblings all of the time

My sibs and I are close but we have lots of age gaps and live in different places and have very different lives so we don’t always communicahe a lot. I've started to facetime them constantly to say hi. Sometimes they don't pick up but that is ok. As long as they do sometimes and I can see their face and say hi :)

@user18

Feb 22, 2024