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For the past year or so I’ve tried to surprise as many people as I can with a birthday cake on their special day. I can safely say it is the easiest, most rewarding thing you can do to show your gratitude that someone else exists. You only have to do it once a year, but they’ll remember it.
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i made my own birthday cake this year—historically it has always been done by my dad or a friend. i am always overjoyed and grateful by their generosity, but this year i knew i had to go it myself. 2025 has so far been a year of self love and growth, so for my 22nd birthday i made my cake as an ode to myself. she is simple, yet entirely mine.
Feb 5, 2025
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it’s such a awkward marker of a new year. a weird mix of wanting people to celebrate you, but feeling tired of the obligation to thank everyone that only reaches out once a year.
i always find birthdays really hard, and fairly disappointing.
my recommendation is to give yourself grace, and do what makes you happy. i know it’s such a generic rec but this past year on the actual day i just took it easy, treated myself to some takeout, and watched a show in bed. a few days after i got together with friends and we went to a restaurant i love but they’d never really wanted to go to. and then we ate homemade cake and watched a movie.
sorry if this isn’t a very upbeat response (: <3
happy birthday!! and know random people on the internet are celebrating you (:
Jul 30, 2024
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and it doesn’t just have to be for your birthday, it can be for other people’s too (if that’s what they want ofc)
i love feeling special on my birthday and love to make people feel special on their birthdays :3
Mar 7, 2024
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Ever since I got sober, I’ve had this nagging feeling that I got away with something that many people I’ve known over the years did not. Acknowledging this truth always alleviates any momentary anxiety I might be feeling and mainlines a potent batch of gratitude into my system. Life continues to throw a lot at you even after you’ve cleaned up your act, and in many ways it feels a lot harder to handle because reality isn’t so foggy anymore and problems aren’t as easy to shrug off as they once were. But remembering that I’m lucky to still be here at all and that I just might be in the bonus round of my life always makes me thrilled to be alive.“I want to live again!” - George Bailey, “It’s A Wonderful Life”
Oct 31, 2023
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Can’t believe I forgot to include this earlier. Chris Lilley’s masterpiece. Buried deeper and deeper as the years go by. The hardest I’ve laughed at anything outside of Stella.
Dec 11, 2023
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In an old interview where he talks about his favorite bands, John Frusciante concludes by detailing the ways in which REM’s music has been like a friend to him. When he was down and out as an active drug user, friendless and out of the band, REM was there for him. This is more or less how I feel about the entire catalog of John Frusciante. There are lots of bands and artists I always feel I can return to, but none so much like a friend as John Frusciante.“If anything unfolds, it’s supposed to” - John Frusciante, “Going Inside”
Oct 31, 2023